I somehow haven’t ever even heard that rule, but it would have been a lot less creepy than a nearly 40 year old dating a teenager. I honestly feel embarrassed for people who date someone that young when they themselves are so old, because like I said before - what would they have to talk about? I just turned 41 and…

It’s a start:

Yeah, I think it’s dangerous to draw some sort of connection between the act and who the person actually is, because seemingly sweet, nice guys can be some of the worst out there.

Lizzo’s stuff may or may not be to your taste, but she is an actual capital-S Singer: she can hold a note, she has a decent range and she has near-perfect pitch.  None of those things can really be said of Manson.

Yeah, people really need to understand this concept. I’ve had the unpleasant experience of having worked with a "normal-looking" dude who off-hours was raping twelve-year-old girls (which really makes the 'all pedophiles are homosexual' assumption infinitely infuriating). 

“What is the expectation when thinking about a courtship with someone who looks and behaves like a psychotic animal?”

The recent events with Tekashi 6ix9ine reminded me that it’s actually really hard to “cancel” someone. R. Kelly was a practicing pedophile for 20 years, and we was only dropped by his label and management after he stopped having hits. 

Most of the time when someone is cancelled, it just means they were finally being held accountable for their actions. It’s a shame that “cancel culture” has such a negative connotation.

If anything the worst abusers I’ve met in the music world were folk singers, though that like anything else is just anecdotal. The unfortunate truth is sometimes it’s exactly who you think it is and sometimes it isn’t, hiding in plain sight is just as much a thing as a Cosby-esque wholesome personality used as a…

I think you assume its an act.  Look at Alice Cooper.  He dressed up in scary clothes and sang some scary songs but from all accounts the guy sounds like a pussy cat. 

I hope she gets all the support she needs, along with all other victims of his abuse.

On top of everything, this article is now forever ruined:

I like that turn of phrase. This dude doesn’t frame anything through the lens of her wellbeing (if this was rape) or his own hurt (if this was consensual). Instead the letter focuses on his control over the situation, which includes diagnosing her with “trauma" and pressuring her to file a police report even as he…

For LW1, there’s also the thing where women are sort of conditioned that it’s our job to fix broken people, and that there’s something selfish about saying that you’re done with someone because of their problems. It’s one thing to be a partner with someone on their mental health journey, but that’s not what this is. Yo…

Yeah.  I feel like it’s a very generous reading to assume your girlfriend was actually drunk all weekend and raped (and that could be the case!), but it is a VERY DICK MOVE to ever try to force someone you believe to be a victim into reporting the crime, particularly as some sort of  . .  idk, fidelity test?  This…

“Oh, you’re telling me that you were drunk? Well if that’s true you were raped. Let’s report this to prove your love to me!” This is pretty messed up stuff. She’s trying to be honest, he’s taking it to extremes then reporting her guilt and shocked reaction at his extremes as a “trauma response.” She did the asshole…

With only the letter to go by and no word from L2 Girlfriend herself on what actually happened, it’s entirely possible that she happened to find herself in the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong individual who forced her to spend two days getting drunk and having non-consensual sex with him. But it kinda…

Yeah, but see, no one says “I’ve been dating this new boy,” and that is the point of the letter writer. It’s weird and infantilizing to refer to a grown-ass woman as a girl unless you are that grown-ass woman’s good friend and you are channeling Whoopi in Ghost to warn her about the fuckwit she’s dating: “You in…

You can also look at cinema, which was dramatizing World War 1 basically from the get go, but never actually addressed the flu pandemic. Ditto modernist literature - Hemingway wrote realist fiction set during the pandemic without ever even alluding to it. 

That 2LW is like exhibit 42 of why cuckolds in real life must be exhausting. You find a dude who you are down to fuck in front of your boyfriend and he complains he’s not “hot enough”?? I would tie him up and break down in step by step detail about how this other guy gets me wet and then see who’s the dominant.