Men and woman avoid ELPs because they are simply not worth it (And with a women in particular are hazardous to your health).
I’ve been in this situation before, where if I missed my bus and came home 20 minutes later than normal it was interrogation time. Never cheated (how could I? The logistics were overwhelming!), but I started to hide innocent things to avoid accusation, which only increased the distrust if they were found out. (If…
Number 1: don’t badmouth ELP. Fanfare for the Common Man is great.
Oh I dated an EJP before and she showed up unannounced at my job, home, etc. and caused a huge scene while making wild accusations of infidelity. In hindsight it took a little too long for me to realize I’d be much happier if I were single.
I took it to be from a bi guy, which is why he would feel guilty. If it’s a woman feeling that guilt for contributing to the patriarchy in some way then she’s REALLY taken things beyond reason.
I can’t imagine sustaining a relationship with someone like that. My wife and I both travel some for business, often with other people. Frequently there are dinners/drinks involved. Either of us could certainly have cheated on the other along the way and gotten away with it. Am I worried she has? No, because I…
That second letter threw me - crazy jealous people like the first one seem pretty run of the mill, but the mental gymnastics going on with that second letter are impressive/hard to wrap my head around. Clearly, though, the solution in both cases is therapy.
Exactly - this person’s bf is managing to work with an ex without that causing workplace drama, and the last thing he needs is his girlfriend bringing a bunch of unfounded accusations in and screwing up his dynamic with his coworkers. This is a problem to be worked out between the letter writer and a good therapist.
Also “come by sometime” is an ambiguous phrase. I work in education, and while it would be fine for my partner to come see my classroom with some advance notice and at a convenient time, it would be weird if she showed up unannounced in the middle of a class right after telling me she had suspicions about one of my…
OMG, LW1. I can’t imagine being in a relationship with someone who I know has a problem with an ex-whatever of mine and then that someone begging to meet the person they are jealous/suspicious of. Just out of sheer awkwardness I would not want them to meet, but there would also be the fear my partner would freak out…
Help! I’m an EJP with PCP-fuelled ESP, so I know *for sure* my SO is down with OPP.
MLM is the new way of saying pyramid scheme. Because, no one learned the lessons and they’re doing the same things they did before, but MLM is classier.
As is so often the case, it’s not really about him, he’s just someone clever enough to exploit people in crisis. I’ve known people like him, and they had women fall all over them, and this was a guy who smelled bad, had blackened teeth, was losing his hair, and was short and not well built, his life was also generally…
I'm so excited! And yet, I am so scared.
Your first response makes me worry about what happens in your bedroom.
I’d be most perplexed if one of my roomies’ exes asked me to get him to change his mind. What am I, his mother?
Let it live on in your memories as a beautiful gift, along with Who’s Afraid of the Dark and Salute Your Shorts.
Yeah, I am in a very healthy marriage, but I’m definitely the kind of person who sometimes wants confirmation that her decision is correct/logical. It’s not that I don’t trust myself, but sometimes it just helps to have another person confirm what you already thought.
You’re forgetting 4. The Sunk Cost Fallacy