I think the idea is that a lot of queer women love A League of Their Own, and only in part because it’s  a movie about a bunch of ladies playing baseball in one big woman-y mass of friendship and solidarity.

Yep. Baseball was a refuge for the outcast women of A League of Their Own. Dottie was the only “normal” one of the group who could have gone on to be reasonably happy as a standard 1940s housewife. For the others, they got a few happy years doing what they loved with great friends before all that was taken away. (And…

I also have to wonder exactly how she knows her son is a virgin. Is she reading his diary? Did he tell her? Is she assuming? I can’t imagine many situations in which she should actually be privy to that information. It’s not her business.

Out of curiosity, how did LW #1 find out about the threesome? Did his boyfriend tell him what happened after he had seen the LW’s parents? Did the parents see the boyfriend and spill the beans?

If my boyfriend had slept with my parents, think I would have to dump him. I’d like to think that, Captain and Tennille style, love would be enough to keep us together, but the awkwardness! How can you and your significant other and your parents just sit around the Thanksgiving table with the cranberries knowing what…

Might as well make F&F’s homoerotic subtext text.

Elle feels a bit nouveau riche, but I think part of the discrimination is geographic. Elle is a Californian while Vivian is pure East Coast. (By extension, LB’s subtext seems to be that Hollywood people who make movies aren’t so dumb. Take that, Harvard grads who work at McKinsey.)

I mean, LB is all about personal growth. Sure, Elle starts off as a woman who just wants a man and a rock on her finger, but she comes to realize that her dreams could be so much bigger and that she’s capable of so much more.

Yes. One of Legally Blonde’s biggest statements is that high femmes should be taken seriously and not discounted because they are attractive/made up/girly. Hedy Lamar was a genius, after all.

I guess I assumed that the other couple were supposed to be in an open marriage or that the wife didn’t know about the cheating and thought that the wife-swapping was the first time that her husband hooked up with the LW’s wife (Because yes, as much as the LW agreeing to this scenario strains credibility, the idea…

Yes, I’d be horrified to realize that I was in hot tub with two people who were having sex in front of me. Similarly, I would be far too horrified of subjecting unwitting people to my sex life to get up to anything in a hot tub with anyone who wasn’t directly involved in the sex. Especially friends. And especially…

Yeah, letter #1 sounds a bit suspicious to me, too. I can’t imagine the world where your wife says, “Honey, I cheated on you. But you know what will make it better? If I cheat on you with that guy again in front of you. Oh, and you get to sleep with his wife or whatever.” And you say, “That sounds like a great idea…

I don’t think that anyone is trying to defend Argento insofar as she raped a teenager. However, she was crucified in the Italian press for being a rape victim (with a sexual appetite of her own) long before the accusations against her became public. Also (and I say this as a Bourdain fan), many Bourdain fans treat her…

Man, being 19 sucks. At this age, I can’t imagine wanting to be friends, lovers, or even residents of the same state with someone who slept with me and then told me that my body was too gross for him to want to sleep with me again before the afterglow even wore off (If there was an afterglow. A guy this selfish is…

Agreed. The LW should mention something around their cousin about how they have no problem with queerness and then butt straight out of their cousin’s business.

I’m no fan of Perry’s song. It gives off the strong “pretending to be a lesbian to cater to the male gaze” vibes that were all the rage circa 2008, but it does have one advantage against “Come to My Window:” it was unambiguously about two girls making out. Melissa Etheridge is a lesbian, and it’s easy to read “CtMW”…

Yeah, this retcon really annoyed me. It makes sense that Willow would be bi/pan, but I would have been just fine with her saying “I used to be into men, but these days, I’m really only into ladies,” so I identify as a lesbian. The whole Oz and Xander who? thing was annoying since those relationships were meant to be…

It may be the case that the IUD is stabilizing, but everyone I’ve ever heard of who has a mental illness that could be affected by pregnancy (e.g. the uterus-owner goes off medications that can cause birth defects) has been able to get and stay pregnant anyway because it is their right.

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