Agreed. I absolutely love The Weeknd’s voice, but please, dude, sing about something other than messing up your life with too many drugs and sexing up ladies who only love you for your fame and money and/or the aforementioned drugs.

Regarding PRISONS, it’s a bad sign that sex has almost entirely stopped less than two years into the relationship, and an even worse sign that the LW and his boyfriend aren’t talking about it. However, the worst part of all is that the LW is contemplating staying in the relationship so he doesn’t hurt his boyfriend’s…

It makes sense. Once your political party has worked out effective vote-rigging mechanisms, you surely feel the need to use them on more than one occasion.

Do they still make those customized condoms? There was a company at one point that sold condoms according to your, uh, measurements. There was a period of several years when those condoms weren’t available, but the company kept saying that they were coming back.

Disagree. If you’re using shared accounts to cheat, you should expect to be caught since your SO has plenty of legitimate reasons to go over the charges in those accounts. I assume that expectation of privacy would be the standard in court rather that intent because intent is so hard to prove.

I’ve heard Dan justify retroactive snooping, though I don’t remember anything about apologies. I’d say that while snooping is rarely okay, I’d give it a pass under a few circumstances (e.g. You’re 95% sure that you’re being cheated on and so go through your SO’s phone*; you think your spouse is gaslighting you and so…

I really don’t get that guy. Wouldn’t it be a bigger blow to your ego to wear a condom that’s obviously too big for you than it is to buy the completely standard size that works for probably more than 90% of guys?

Combing through a joint phone bill is an invasion of privacy if the only reason you’re doing so is to look for evidence of cheating. But given how suspicious this LW was, I think that the violation of privacy is forgivable if, in the long run, it helps him extract himself from this terrible relationship.

The fact that IGNORED’s girlfriend is probably sleeping with another man is a problem. It’s also an issue that she’s ignoring him. But how in the world is this guy still in this relationship, especially now that she’s moved? If you haven’t met your supposed significant other’s friends or family in two years, you’re…

Also, older folks are less likely to use condoms since they obviously don’t need birth control and those who were recently widowed may have never needed condoms if they started having sex before the AIDS crisis.

Dear Savage Nobody,

Can you start with something you’re into that’s pretty low stakes? I can’t see it going well to lay the big stuff out if both of you aren’t comfortable communicating about stuff that’s less fraught. (It sounds like the problem her is one of general communication--or of communication specifically around sex--rather…

The second LW reminds me of those guys who insist that it totally wasn’t gay because they only *received* oral sex from another man. It’s not like they reciprocated or anything like that.

Textbook abuse is textbook abuse, regardless of the genders involved.

I’m not sure that the bf’s behavior is at all suspicious since it’s unclear when he told the LW that it was fine for her to visit his work. If that conversation took place after the LW demanded to meet his coworker, then it’s a tiny bit suspicious.* If the conversation took place before, then it’s not suspicious.

“Price had occasionally turned up as villains before, but director Andre de Toth was the first to recognize just how creepy his patrician affect could be, and how potentially porous was the boundary between eccentric and insane.”

Just because someone is doing okay financially and has a family and a decent job doesn’t mean that they’re not in crisis or lacking in some way.

The solution to LW#1's problem is to break up with this guy.

I’m sure that A plays into things to some degree. From the beginning, marriages never exist in a vacuum, which is why it’s customary to invite friends and family to your wedding ceremony. If I were married, I admit that I’d probably go to marriage counseling before divorcing even if only to convince my family and in-la…

“And I suspect, deep down, many of these people know it, too.”