So the second letter is basically asking what’s happening when a guy who said he loves you but who has a girlfriend and at least two other mistresses stops touching you except to let you give him oral sex every so often? I . . . really hope that this letter is fake, because otherwise the degree of low self-esteem on…

Oops—I saw the avatar and assumed. At any rate, my post stands. Coercive partners (of any gender) are terrible. And you certainly want to avoid being in a situation where you’re pressured to violate anyone’s boundaries (including your own).

Presuming that it was the original LW who wrote that update post, then I revise my opinion. The third sounds like he was almost certainly an asshole (I say “almost” allowing for the very slim possibility that he got embarrassed about not getting an erection and so he broke out the condom excuse/ porn suggestion…

Men want all sorts of things and that’s fine, they just aren’t allowed to demand those things (or to beg for them until you finally give in).

“I’ve never been attracted to him before and wouldn’t want anything to happen between us again, anyway, even if the kiss was hot.”

“I thought this guy was kind of an asshole. My boyfriend was definitely an asshole. My questions are: If I’m uncomfortable during a threesome, how do I politely call it off?”

*Hides under the covers*

I mean, sure, it’s probably not going to happen and this guy will have to content himself with porn or get a divorce, but how in the world did these two people not have a more extensive conversation about this issue? If the wife was never into her partner’s fetish/ entertained the idea but decided against it/ thought…

“I’m glad she hates me now. She can feel anger instead of sadness.”

*Had* the super-creepy manner? When is Donald Sutherland not super-creepy? He’s really got a bit of a James Woods thing happening; not everyone he plays is evil, but if you’re casting for an evil character, he’s a pretty good choice. Also, you wouldn’t want anyone you love to date even the most benevolent character…

*Had* the super-creepy manner? When is Donald Sutherland not super-creepy? He’s really got a bit of a James Woods thing happening; not everyone he plays is evil, but if you’re trying to cast someone evil, he’s a pretty good choice. Also, you wouldn’t want anyone you love to date even the most benevolent character he’s…

Yeah. It was a bit odd reading all the thinkpieces that criticized 50 Shades of Grey for being unrealistic. Of course it’s unrealistic; it’s a fantasy. That being said, the context of BDSM can provide good cover for abusers when one (or both) partners are uneducated about boundaries, so the issue of fantasy vs.…

That and people who brag about sex are bragging about the sex they’re having (or pretending to have). Teenagers who’ve made purity pledges aside, very few people talk about all they sex they’re not having. The overall effect is that *everyone* is having sex.

Also, I’m going to go out on a limb and assume that almost everyone thinks that they were “late bloomers” vis-a-vis losing their virginity (Both because people tend to assume that everyone else is having sex when they’re not, and because most people want to have sex for awhile before it actually happens for them.).

Regarding SAS, I don’t think it’s a bad thing to keep quiet about your first few dates with someone. It can be awkward to go through the whole How long have you been dating? Is he your boooyfriend? thing with friends, family, coworkers, acquaintances, etc., and I’d rather know what a relationship is or isn’t before…

PIV goes, it can be fun, but most people aren’t going to be happy with PIV alone, particularly women, most of whom need other types of stimulation to have an orgasm. That’s not to say that PIV can’t be a frequent menu item, or that a couple can’t mutually decide that it’s the only thing they want to do, but it’s not…

I teach college students, and I can’t imagine thinking of an 18 or 20-year-old as sexy. They’re so young. However, I agree with Dan that sleeping with people of that age isn’t inherently immoral, but it’s a bad idea. Getting a reputation for sleeping with students (And let’s be serious; if you sleep with enough…

In my experience a a 30-something teacher of college students, professors get the most romantic/ sexual attention (of both the respectful and disrespectful varieties) when they’re young. Grad students and new PhDs are probably getting more attention than slightly older teachers like you and me. Maybe that’s what’s…

They were on Amazon until a month or two ago. My guess is that Amazon lost the contract to stream them via Prime, so they’ll go up on a different service soon. My money would be on Netflix, but if Avatar and Korra are ultimately owned by someone other than Nick, who knows where they’ll wind up.

Geez, NOMNOM’s boyfriend is a bonehead. It’s bad enough to skip condoms in any situation when your partner wouldn’t be okay with that behavior, but what kind of idiot goes bareback without permission 1) with his partner in the room, and 2) during their first threesome? I have to assume that this guy is actively trying…