Some women’s clits are fully engaged during intercourse without any extra effort (they can come “just” from fucking), but they’re in the minority.

The assumption behind Dan's advice is that there's a bisexual closet that's a lot like the closet that gay people have historically had to hide in. Is it?

Liked for the rare genuine lol.

It says "Exclamation," not "Ejaculation."

If you define attraction only as what happens to your genitals, as measured electrically, while you watch porn, there's a study that seems to support this idea (basically that men who identify as bisexuals are only physically aroused by men). I don't put a lot if stock into it because it was kind of small, pretty…

Lie detectors work in the real world, just not to detect lies. They can be useful to detect guilty knowledge, for example.

But, uh… computer… guy… smart?

I would love that show. I would like it a heck of a lot more than what we got.

Flamboyant sassy soothsayer Patton Oswalt, spacey spiritual adventurer Patton Oswalt, obnoxious crude sex-obsessed Patton Oswalt, repressed religious prude Patton Oswalt, slow-on-the-uptake bruiser Patton Oswalt.

I imagine the situation has nuances and complexities, but in general you can discriminate against candidates as long as it's not on the basis of membership in a protected group. So you can't decide to hire someone on the basis of their gender or race, but you can decide on the basis of their astrological sign.

I'd describe my first time as "not much" rather than bad and I suspect that's typical. It's expectations that fuck us (true about so many things).

I know, it was just a false dichotomy in a public conversation. You equated sharing a bedroom with "having to be in the same room as another human being without a break." I replied because I thought someone might be wrong on the Internet and because I'm petty and terrible.

Right, but that's why you need to establish your deal-breakers before you make that promise. Once you make the promise, you're promising to try your best to achieve satisfaction within the relationship parameters you've established, or you both agree to change them. If you promised to be monogamous, you're promising,…

Right, I don't think I was very clear. I don't think you owe someone a diagnosis of what's wrong with them or any criticism at all. I think that would be going too far. And tactlessness would suck, too. I just think if you're not feeling attraction or chemistry, it's okay to just say that or at least "I'm just not…

It's not all or nothing. It's not like if you sleep in the same room you're also both required to be there when you're awake.

He brought himself to spank her, he was just reluctant to do it. I'm picking up from the tone in the letter that since he's "doing it wrong" she wants to look elsewhere rather than be positive and encouraging. Obviously that's an assumption and I could be wrong, but it's as valid as assuming this complete traditional…

Actually, no, the hints are there in the letter. The "humiliating" attempts at him domming her. She has brought it up, he's tried, and he's "doing it wrong." This is actually really common.

I have to say, I respectfully disagree with this advice. It may save you from what you think is a confrontation, but it doesn't give the other person much respect or credit, and it opens up the possibility of negative continued contact and a chain of more white lies ("oh, who are you seeing? still seeing this person?…

I'm glad to hear from you!

Besźel/Ul Qoma from The City and the City is my actual pick for this Q&A. And the novel is just utterly fantastic, one of my favorites of all time. Kraken is also excellent and Embassytown is good if you like consideration of alien cultures a bit more alien than "has a funny forehead".