She's probably considering more than just birth defect risk, like having more of a lead time to consider a lot of options and try a lot of things if you do run into problems. And probably some paternalism about the whole child-rearing picture, namely the idea that you'll have less energy to deal with young kids in…

It's a learning experience, regardless.

Yeah, in general if I had it to do over I'd have started earlier. There's no such thing as being "ready" for children, which I only understood after I had one. I was 31 when my son was born and I still feel a bit on the old side now.

I think it might be the fact that there's no mutual sexual interest in the dominant. Lots of straight sub guys get turned on by the idea of being made to suck a dick, for example, I don't think it really makes them less straight. I think it's the fact that they're being "made" to do something that is (for them)…

None of that (that is, planning to get married, acknowledging the desire, and knowing what the "answer" will be) has a whole lot to do with proposing.

Counselor, your tally is incorrect.

I just realized I loved Spring Breakers and Lolita for kind of the same reason, a glossy satirical surface and sickness underneath—not morally gray, but just kind of sick in the way the characters strive. And the way it kind of narratively plays with your sympathies in a way you wouldn't have thought possible.

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When you watch the opening sequence, and you see this kind of MTV's Spring Break "frolic" in the surf, it starts off with that kind of frat party atmosphere.

It's possible. I may have wanted to like the show so much I found excuses for things. I do that.

Is he that much of a black hat? I mean, he's ruthless but seems more personally power-mad and "the end justifies the means" type. It seems like he wants government to be well-regulated by him (as opposed to voters and other lessers he holds in contempt) but I never got the idea he wanted to do other than reasonable…

Yeah, I didn't have a problem with the character, because I think she's intended to be "nothing much under the hood," and she pulls it off. I liked the show.

I don't think they were supposed to have "chemistry." You mean sexual chemistry? I don't think so. I think we're supposed to think that Spacey's character doesn't really have normal eroticism, the only relationship we ever see him have that might be genuine emotional passion is with a man; with his wife they have a…

You're not thinking hard enough. You could create an online hookup profile with Ursula as the picture and get huge responses.

After a while you have to tell your kid, "face it, son, that's… those are just three circles in a bunch of circles."

Did this feel like a mutual priority from the outset? Or did it start with prompting from one of you to the other? I have a feeling that that more than anything else is what makes a difference (based on my sample size of, uh, me, and mostly-imagined Internet couples.

Asexuality is one of those curious things where I'm not so sure it's completely "hey, whatever." There are lots of components of a whole, healthy person, the lack of which we consider a pathology. The lack of a conscience, lack of empathy, lack of ability to distinguish the real and fantasy, etc. are all mental…

Oh! Now I understand what you mean by "Driver's Helper." At first I had an entirely different job description in mind.

Blackouted! Sorry!

I can trust the person I'm with without trusting everyone they've ever had sex with.