Is there something like a rape version of Truffaut's assertion about making an anti-war movie (you can't, because war looks great onscreen)? Where, however you show it, if you show it, at least some people will take it as a turn-on or something titillating? I recall reading about the director of The Accused, or maybe…

Is it "so" popular? I don't know how popular it is.

I don't think it's a "taboo," it's a categorization. People are picky about what turns them on and they usually don't like it when something that isn't a turn-on pops up and distracts them or grosses them out. So in "mainstream" straight porn you don't cut to, like, five minutes of guys making out or sucking each…

They make things better, on the whole. Remember that you're not even watching a lot of the junk that got produced in the past, you're almost always cherry-picking or watching a highly curated subset.

Southland Tales is really something. It's worth watching, definitely not a waste of time. I kind of love it, but I wouldn't call it "good," exactly. But now I really want to see it again.

Yeah, well, the line she stepped over was that she didn't just say "This is bad and this is why I think so," which, honestly, is slack you have to give every critic no matter how hard you disagree with them. It's that she went on to say, "Oh, and you're wrong for liking it, and you only like it for this irrational,…

This seems to be highly individual to a relationship. I don't think it's as slam dunk as it sounds. It is something partners have to agree on, explicitly, and the boundaries about what we would consider "private" are changing, and are also something two people might not agree on without talking about it. In this case,…

Putting lotion on things is a good way to discourage me from licking them.

Thank you.

Honestly, "I'm afraid you like me because you're sexually attracted to
me" is such a weird complaint that it's impossible to even address.

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We've actually had this discussion before, probably about some other abusive partner threatening suicide, but this has also happened twice in my immediate experience. My handyperson was a direct example, her partner threatened to commit suicide over relationship issues; and then did. And my mother did so out of spite…

Donal Logue? Really? He has a house around me somewhere.

Is it better than actual for-adults athletic body glide or anti-chafe powder?

If it's a one-on-one thing, it's inevitable. If you have other people you're trying to get together to e.g., go to a movie or on a hike together, she'd be one to include, but just her and you is always going to have strong overtones of a date.

In my area, the city with a 60k population is the "big city" and I live in a nearby town. Between the two there are three pub trivia nights, I've found that's a great place to avoid high school students.

I think Dan was unnecessarily mocking in his advice to GRIND. The letter gives off vibes that lead me to think I wouldn't like him, but all he's really asking is what you've answered—you think that being direct, saying "I'd like you to initiate sex more often" is going to backfire. Savage guesses that GRIND's…

The problem I have with praising the "political subtext" in The Host (which I really liked, but not for this) is that it doesn't really qualify as subtext. It's more like a cartoon, like an attempt at Doctor Strangelove taking on Kafka; but since it's so ham-handed it skips right past the "I get it already!" stage and…

For a variety of reasons I read almost none of the canon in school, so I've been a member of a classics book club for some years (just picking books, talking about them, no pedagogy). Ulysses is one of my favorites (if not my favorite, if not my favorite of all time) and yet I tried and failed several times to read it…

So true. Read the heck out of Proton/Phaze, had much too much an effect on my sexuality, all from the high school library.