Do what feels right to you in the end, but for now, you're entitled to a lot of space and a chance to get used to being single again. I'd get your shit from her place and tell her you'll give her a call in three months. Sounds like she's cool with giving you space, so if she's really a friend, she'll understand.

And? What was the answer to the question? This is Savage Love, not Dear Abby. Don't talk about banging older partners and not bring it home!

Oh sure. I certainly understand what you mean. Especially if one is prone to jealousy, I have no doubt that it would bug the fuck out of them. I guess I just can't afford to be jealous of shit like that. Something about pots and kettles.

My wife and I trade "war stories" all the time. I'm glad she's had great sex with other people and that her life wasn't all pain and misery before she met me. The corollary might be: do you ever fantasize about another person, whether an ex, a stranger, or Glamour Magazine? If so, does that mean you are not fulfilled…

I fucking LOVE waffles.

Seems like the most fucked up people I know were raised in strict religious homes, so just anecdotally I can't buy your argument.

When you argue that a woman has to be a Madonna in order to be married, you're pretty much a slut-shaming misogynist.

Having kids and family doesn't mean you have to turn into a prude. How may housewives do you know? Giving up sex work doesn't mean you don't have a past, or you want to be vanilla.

Yep, not a big deal. And if your wife has a shit fit because you have an old dirty picture on your computer, well, you married a prude. If you like porn, even porn you made yourself, and your wife doesn't, you should have known that before you got married or got together. And just as in this case, when that happens,…

No. You never learned to read. She said she fell in love with him, and "I closed my practice and sold (most of) my toys because he
didn’t want to be with a woman who was still practicing this kind of physical intimacy with others. Fair enough." Sounds like he was the one who wanted her to give up a job she enjoyed.…

Who cares? Are you so insecure that you have to pretend someone you are with has never had sex with someone else? If so, don't fall in love with your dominatrix. Find a nice sheltered girl to marry and make her miserable instead.

Yeah, I wouldn't give a shit about that. And don't distort the issue. She said a single picture, not a collection of sex pics. Also, the operative phrase is "her computer," not the "home computer." Like I said, if you want someone vanilla, marry someone vanilla, but trying to change someone is a dead end.

Well, she did say she's retired from the biz, so how toned down do you want it? White picket fence and chained to the stove? I suppose I can understand a little jealousy about getting together with a former client, but keeping some old sex tape/pictures around doesn't seem like a big deal to me. And asking someone to…

Condolences. Going through something similar, having just put down an old pet friend. It really sucks. The house feels oddly empty, even with the other pets still around.

I think if I were open-minded enough to see a professional sex worker, and then open-minded enough to fall in love with said sex worker, I'd probably be okay with my former sex worker partner having detritus of her former job around. If you're looking for a vanilla partner, it's probably best to fall in love with a…

Generally true, though when the Missouri pounded the shit out of the Iraqi army in 1991, I doubt the term "obsolete" crossed their minds…

Really? Does Martin not have a game plan? From what people who've read the books have told me, they're following the overarching plot and politics pretty well.

I thought it was great. He was on the list. She simply let him die and in her mind the suffering was deserved. But I agree that she's a pint-sized homicidal maniac.

Yeah, I felt like she was toying with him, just watching him lay there in agony, then she straight up robs him and walks off. Cold as shit.

I'm not sure Mance is a real villain, and I'm not sold on Stannis as someone we should be rooting for, so I do think there's a decent amount of ambiguity in terms of the plot and politics of the show.