Guns are legal in just about every West-European country, the Nordic countries have gun ownership rates similar to the USA, and gun deaths in West-Europe are (certainly compared to the USA) absurdly low.

A 13-year-old student at the school named Benjamin told the Times, “Someone decided to bring a gun, I guess someone was accidentally playing around with it. They thought it was a fake gun.”

Take all the guns.

Agreed. I feel like because he’s kissing his male son people are being even more dramatic. Kids benefit from affection. Let the man be.

I’m not sure why I need to pass judgement on the Tom Brady video. Speaking as a Dad of a 9y/o boy, I love it when he gives me a spontaneous hug or a kiss. I know he’s going to turn into an asshole when he’s a teenager, so I’m enjoying the hugs and kisses all I can.

I think its rather nice that a father and son can show love and affection towards each other. Lord knows my father rarely did.

I’ve thought about this as well regarding my own friends, and I still don’t have an answer, which feels weird considering the closest I’ve ever come to being raped was by a mutual friend who I met at a party. I told the friend who’d thrown the party (it was a good friend and her bf, and the party was at their…

I think it’s obvious that men have been indoctrinated (more or less) into believing their behavior is acceptable, just as women have. Is this anyone’s fault? Nobody is born into a vacuum, and no child truly contributes to a culture. That’s why it’s frustrating to see men being constantly made into an enemy around…

So exactly what I said... cool? I think we are in passionate agreement here. Maybe I just know exceptionally shitty men but I don’t think I know a single guy who hasn’t done something at least problematic in their intimate relationships (not specifically with me, in general). If I got rid of all guys in my life that…

I’m sorry that happened to you. I didn’t mean to sound like I thought using our words would entirely stop rape.

I have a younger brother I love very much who has committed assault many times, at one point against his (now ex-) wife, in front of her child. My brother is such a hilarious, interesting, intelligent weirdo. His instagram account is my favorite. I’ve never met anyone like him.

The proliferation of porn. Boys start watching it young, they think sexual encounters look a certain way, their first girlfriends are also young and have also been watching porn from a young age and don’t stop them, and it goes on and on.

Thank you. I totally agree.

As a parent, I disagree. It is 100% my responsibility to raise my children with the moral and ethical compass calibrated to “don’t assault people.”

My friend’s adult child is charged with some serious sexual crimes against a minor and my friend asked me to write a “character” letter for him. Without going out of my way to vouch for him, (because as it turns out, none of us really understood or knew him well prior to these events,) I asked that, as a first time…

“I hope she’s had a conversation with Aziz about how to stop being a predatory date, but is it really her place to be asked about this in public?”

I was domming semi-professionally at 19 and did fine, but I definitely look back on some of the dudes I met now with more concern than I did at the time.

Dead on with all your observations. One thing that I often hear from dommes of the non-professional sort is that they genuinely can’t figure out a lot of the men they do so with, and to me that’s a very short hop to concluding that a sub is mentally unstable. To me, that is a do-not-pass-go moment as a dom for a…

Ex-professional dominatrix here. I had a few findom clients but chose not to focus my practice around it. I found that the guys can be REALLY high maintenance. People often think findom is an easy, no effort way to make money (a mistake people make about sex work in general) but it is NOT.

And here I’ve been being rude to men FOR FREE like some kind of IDIOT.