No advice on the husband front other than to say he should be doing more work on weekends. Your requests are valid.

Hi. I’ve been a lurker for a while and keep losing my burner passwords, but I just wanted to say that I’ve been following your posts and very much appreciate and value what you bring.

As someone who is the sibling of an addict, let me tell you that you are still loved. You may have messed up countless times but you are loved by your family. My brother has fallen time and time again but I have never stopped loving him. there have been years we didn’t speak because it was too difficult for both of us…

I used to hum bubble guppies theme song in the shower.

You obviously didn’t read my comments. I said I would not have left if I were her age and had only experienced 22 years of sexist abuse rather than 30. My 30 year old self hurts for her @22 as well as me @22. Why are you so angry??

Interesting read. Thanks. I guess I’ve just been hit on one too many times by married men. I have become jaded and pessimistic. Also what you rewrote reinforces my disdain for marriage. I’m probably too selfish to give up so much for someone else.

Agreed. But also, I couldn’t have gotten to where I am now unless I had gone through that abuse. I don’t think I can tell my daughter “listen to me. I’ve been through it. You won’t get hurt this way.” She won’t listen. She’s going to have to learn this stuff for herself. That’s depressing.

Oh I completely agree. When I had my kids I didn’t get myself off for MONTHS after and couldn’t imagine penetration of any kind of even longer. People change. I think I’m talking about people who completely stop having sex with their spouses after a few years and while they’re cool with it, the spouse isn’t. That must…

I know. I mentioned on here that once I was date raped by a man I had planned on having dinner with and going home with. We met on tinder and we knew the deal. We knew we’d most likely end up at my place, had been sending sexy flirty texts the week leading up, etc etc. He ended up raping me before we went out for our…

Actually you’re wrong. People have been scared of people who look different than themselves since the beginning of time. That’s racism. We have evolve different out of that thankfully (some of us).

Then what’s the solution? Lock all men away? If behavior can’t be learned, that’s it. Game over. Men and women neeed to be separated.

You are insane. I’m commenting on a jezebel post. I’m adding my two cents like everyone else is. Wanting to help someone is wrong? Giving advice is wrong? You don’t have to agree with what Im dishing but to say I have to get help is super out of line.

Sorry for wanting to solve problems instead of ignoring them and letting them fester. This applies to every aspect of my life. Have anxiety about something? Work through it. Don’t take Klonopin and smoke pot and drink coffee to mask it. Am I crazy?

Ummm I’m not. Do whatever you want. I’m just adding another point of view. Acceptable?

This this this. I fully agree. Last time I was date raped I told the guy I’d rather go out for dinner first before we make out. I told it hurt. I told him to get off. I told him ouch. I told him not now. I told him this doesn’t feel good. I finally yelled STOP and kicked him off. He was SHOCKED I wasn’t into it. I…

Ha. I agree. Terrible comparison. I just happened to be taking the trash out when I wrote that comment. I guess it’s. Lee along the lines of getting up with the baby in the middle of the night or babysitting while your spouse goes out. Something that isn’t a chore but sometimes you’d rather not do but do so for your…

I was trying to say something similar up thread. I agree. I was watching the bachelor this week and the girls were in a wrestling ring with professional female wrestlers. The bachelor girls were giggling and laughing and smiling and super uncomfortable about having to be tough for a minute. The female wrestlers were…

No. COME ON. Human beings do not know how to interact with each other. I don’t think technology is helping. My kids say their friends play on their phones during recess instead of interacting.

Yes I know. I meant take it another step and LEAVE. Don’t stay and sit on the floor while he plays with your hair or watch a movie. You aren’t into him? Stop and leave. Shut that down asap. I’ve been in grace’s position a million times. Up until a few years ago I would have acted evavtly as she did. So I get it. I…

You are awesome. I hope my daughter feels confident enough in herself to leave when she’s uncomfortable or not feeling her date. I pray she feels like you.