Now we know why Maria left Access Hollywood and started the online Afterbuzz TV recap platform. She wanted control and no bosses. Fuck these men so much.

Ronan Farrow is burning NBC to the ground and I am here for it. That’s what they get for trying to kill Farrow’s original Weinstein story in 2017. 

People who follow this world know that Phil Griffin has been the problem with MSNBC since they hired him. Any problem you can trace with the change in MSNBC can be traced back up to him and his “vision” for the network. Time’s up.

“...these connections will hopefully (but probably not likely) serve as an explainer for the people who continue to ask why so many victims waited until Me Too was well underway to report sexual misconduct and abuse.”

these are the same people who lament not being able to “joke around anymore” because of metoo. how? how is that appropriate to bring to a freakin staff meeting? the ultimate fuck is up with these assholes? 

I love my idiot men friends & family but honestly would never work for a man again if I didn’t have to.

While it comes as no surprise that all these men are connected, these connections will hopefully (but probably not likely) serve as an explainer for the people who continue to ask why so many victims waited until Me Too was well underway to report sexual misconduct and abuse. Reporting alleged abusers to their…

Ronan Farrow and the women who had the courage to come forward are god damned heroes. But the cynical me says it will change nothing and we will still be inudated with think pieces written by women (as cover) about how “#metoo” has gone too far and #whataboutthemenz because those at the top are so damned invested in…

My depression-era Grandpa always used to say “Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without.” It’s good advice for your wallet and the planet. He’s been gone 10 years this week and I miss him every day.

When I was 12 and in the throws of girl puberty and early adolescent social quagmires, a summer camp counselor once remarked to me, out of the blue, that she could tell I worried that I wasn’t noticed or valued by my peers. She set me straight, informing me of my overall value, worth, and social abilities that I…

At work one day I was bitching about how terrible (abusive) my now ex husband was to me, but lamenting I couldn’t leave him after his mom had just been diagnosed with cancer. One of my coworkers simply nodded and said “with guys like that, there will always be some trauma or issue that makes it impossible to leave…

I was listening to an early episode of This American Life and they had a woman on who had quit her job and started a Zine about quitting (what a 90's sentence!) And the whole philosophy was “it’s okay to quit. Quitting is good” and I realized goddamned that’s true. I quit the grad school program I was in (education)…

“Martinis are like breasts. One is not enough and three are too many.”

Hi Maria and everyone who reads this! I’ve only ever replied to comments so I’m kind of.. nervous..?

A neighbor and I used to nurse our hangovers on the back fire escape with a bottle of red wine. In one of those blurs, she told me that all people really want is for someone to listen and validate them. I never forgot that and I can’t tell you how many people have opened up and cried in front of me. 

I’ve got a few quick ones:

The best unsolicited advice I received was from the wife of my in-laws’ best friends at my wedding reception. They’ve known my husband since conception, so they have a pretty good read him. She said, very presciently now that I’m looking back, “If you want something done right, be prepared to do it yourself.”

Go in the back way at Pere Lachaise in Paris. (seriously. thank you, random person on the internet.)

I don’t know if it’s a good thing or a bad thing that I cannot recall any specific advice distilled into something that’s easy to recap. I was left to figure out a lot of shit on my own growing up.

My mother :

When buying shit....always ask “Do you need it or do you want it? If its I want it, give it 24 hours and then come back and ask do you still want it? If its yes, its ok to buy.”

This is pretty benign compared to everything else on this thread, but years ago I was working full time and finishing my BA. I was on the phone with client who knew my situation, and she asked how things were going. “Good, except I have to write a paper on (something or other, I don’t remember what).”