Sometimes I can't even handle how much I love her.

THANK YOU. White, middle-class-appearing, heteronormative gays are totes fine. <sarcasm font>We all know that butches and queens are only for making us laugh. </sarcasm font> SIGH.

except...I've actually had personal interactions with him (being gay in the same city and all) and he has been a giant, incredibly rude jerk every. single. time (like, immature schoolyard bully I'm-gonna-call-you-names kind of jerk). He may have some good qualities (most humans do), but he's still a privileged,…

It is so complex. It sounds like you and the adoptive family are hopefully able to just let it be complex and work together so that your son is loved and happy. Thanks for sharing your story. And I'm sorry your family is not supportive; hopefully, they'll come around, for your sake and your son's. ♥

I was totally with you until you cited Dan Savage as an example. I hate, hate, HATE that he has become the default spokesgay. He's biphobic, fatphobic, sexist—basically, a hugely privileged jerk. And is not a good person to make your guide for anything. Blargh.

Ahh. I didn't realize.

Based on the things she's saying and the wildly fantastical jumps in logic she's making, I kinda think there's something medical going on (like early dementia or something). Clearly I'm no doctor, but there's just something about the way she's been engaging over the past few years that feels...off. (in addition to…

I was raised Minnesotan, so I'm just going to pretend like nothing happened.

Dammit, I liked something Kesha did.

Except for the hair.

Sorry, internets can be bad for tone: I was genuinely curious. And I made an assumption. :-/

Commenting to try to raise this out of the gray. Birth moms' voices need to be heard more often, as do adoptees' voices.

I'm feeling a bit confused. Are you in the US and you really can't find any babies up for adoption? Through any type of agency (public/private, open/closed, foster)?

I just wish that more people who adopt transnationally/transracially would think more critically about the system they're participating in. I have some friends who are amazing examples of that, and they ended up with an open adoption. The whole way, they were critical (critical-thinking critical, not just…

"If I knew..."

Pretty sure you win for Most Relevant GIF.

The real question here is WHY ARE YOU MAKING MY UTERUS HURT, LINDY?!

Seriously? Cuz I'm adopted and I have serious issues with the industry, especially when it comes to transnational/transracial adoptions. And most of the people I know who are raising their voices and/or working for change are adopted as well.

Also, y'know, if folks are like "oh the poor babies I must rescue themz!" maybe we could work more on the reasons why there is a history of poverty and lack of opportunity in some countries and why people are giving up their babies.

As an adoptee myself, I have waaaay too many Feelings to delve into it here, but if you're a white person thinking about adopting (or have adopted) children of color, here's an excellent resource: