Thanks for this. I helped a friend get a small piece of closure and healing after she was raped by a very close mutual friend at the very school in question here. She didn't want to go through the school or report it to the police, but it was killing her to have no recourse at all - she was constantly getting calls…

I went to UofC, had a friend who went through a similar experience. She had taken leave a quarter or two prior, but was still involved in campus life, and we were all seniors. Raped by a close mutual friend when she was passed out drunk. She told me about it because I had told her about my rape from when I was…

Agreed, these are dumb, but I still love the last one because the dude was a close friend of mine in college and I'm happy to see him making it even if it's a cheesy commercial. Funnily, in real life, he's one of the most intelligent, hilarious, and smoothly ladies-man-esque dudes I've ever had the good fortune of…

Yessss Dansko is where it's at. I go super hard on my shoes at my job, so mine only last about a year, but they're worth the cost even then.

Thank you! I was trying to figure out a non-rambling/not-overly-thinky response that would elucidate my problem with this piece's line of reasoning... and that's the perfect little chunk of an example. When I try to communicate, as a woman, I frequently get shut down, whether it's intentional or not. When something…

Right? I have been known to tell off somebody I"m dating for touching me in a condescending manner, god forbid somebody hit me, I will NOT hesitate to call the cops. But I also don't see why mental illness and drug addiction can't be factored in. If somebody has a violent episode - or even a pattern of them - as a…

OK, so I live in austin now, which... is not cold. Although I do feel justified in saying that I did not move down here so that it could be 20 degrees and feel like 10 degrees at night, which it did yesterday. ANYWAY. I grew up in a cold city, and went to college in a cold city, and have had lots of experience with…

Yeah, or it could have been an employee. That's one of the small joys of being assigned merchandising duties at a retail job! At least, if your boss is chill enough or lazy enough to not notice/care/fire you for it. I worked at a store here in Austin that sold a variety of stuff, including a lot of outdoorsy clothing…

As somebody who responded critically to Lindy's piece, for me it wasn't that the guy wasn't being a dick. It was that being a dick in response really didn't make me have much sympathy or empathy for her. I am a large-ish woman, and in the past was a much larger woman. I know all about the subtleties in the ways people…

I don't have anybody to spend time with this Christmas - some old friends visited me over the last few days, but left this morning, and if my restaurant was open I'd opt to work there just to have something to do. My family is all far away, I don't have a lot of disposable income right now, and the few friends I have…

The other night I had friends visiting from out of town, and we went out and got trashed.. when we got back, I realized that it was a mistake to not stock up on groceries just because we were eating out for lunch/dinner. So we got what we could scrounge and ended up making Cheeto Benedicts... cheetos, over easy eggs,…

As many have pointed out, your story makes you sound like the jerk. Even if he was rude, the thing is... intentionally bumping somebody awake then being snarky about it is dumb and pointless. Why bother creating more interaction? Even when I know my grumbling is justified towards an asshole - say, the people who…

There are about a million reasons that this study is ridiculous. For example, if I am instructed to tour a museum and take pictures, I am much more likely to assume that means that I should be focusing my attention on taking the pictures, not so much on the things I'm taking pictures of. That jives pretty well with…

Yeah, it's actually pretty scary what the generic manufacturers get away with sometimes. Here's a link with a nice overview of the processes leading up to these crappy generics, if you're interested: http://thepigeonpost.org/2010/06/09/tev…

Part of that is people misusing it. Part of that is people who get placed on it, rightly, but don't get the accompanying behavioral therapy that should come with it. Meds are never the only answer to ADD issues - there should also be therapy and tutoring regarding how to approach general life problems. If I don't take…

Thank you! I actually need to take Adderall. I know this because I threw those ragey fits all of my life, before I ever took it, all the way up til mid college. The only time I ever have a meltdown now (been taking it for most of 8 years) is if something terrible happens right after I wake up or at the end of the day,…

While the generic is pretty affordable, unfortunately it is much less consistent in quality within and across brands, and tends to come with a higher level of unpleasant side effects. Every time I fill my prescription, it's a crap shoot as to what it will be like that month. One month it could be headaches as the meds…

If you are actually good friends with somebody, then you should know them well enough that you don't have to say you're concerned about their weight. The only two people I have ever said anything to about their diet/exercise/eating habits are (1) a girl I had been close friends with for a long time, who after living…

Yeah I work at a place that is definitely somewhat out of the norm... but it also has its good sides. Up until the healthcare reform kicks in, we got shitty but free health care, they provide all kinds of extra assistance programs, pay all of their overtime and actually forbid people to work off the clock, allow a lot…

Also, on a much shorter note... crop dusting. Nothing ruins your delicious, tasty meal like the smell of somebody else's fart.