Um, no, we mutually decided not to work with each other. What is it you’re picturing, exactly? Do you think I deliberately rejected someone offering something? That wasn’t what happened.

I hope not, but—well, some people do. I don’t know what works for every POC of course or what every POC needs, but just speaking about the community I’m part of, I think there are things POC [and others] don’t realize.

sometimes you need stuff from white people, chances are. You should be nice to people who are in your community, or who you might someday need something from, or both—for self-serving reasons, if nothing else.

No, of course not! Sorry, that wasn’t clear. I’m totally there for my friends, as much as possible, and I like to think I’m at least a little bit aware of how incredibly vulnerable they are around racism and how lucky I am that they feel comfortable and safe talking to me about it. I’ve worked personally with several…

You know what’s creepy is the number of women who voted for this guy-

Glad to know politicians are totally more mature than five-year-old boys...oh no, wait.

Um, you’re the person who isn’t interested in the actual details of my experience? Or even in reading my full account of it? I’m the one who literally shared my experience, and am sitting here totally willing to analyze it, and have? You’re the one who keeps making stuff up about it, then not admitting you have no…

yup. culture blinding us-

Okay, first off, literally no one I’m talking about was Black, so way to totally conflate being a Person of Color with Blackness, which are not the same thing and is probably pretty demeaning to POC who are not Black. This thread isn’t about Blackness or anti-Blackness, the article isn’t about that, and my response…

WHOA. Did you even read what I wrote? In what way am I defending Rachel Dolezal? More than that, when did I ever say that I SHOULD be allowed into that particular space? It was intended as a POC-only space, and I totally respect that—which I completely said! Why are you jumping off the handle at me? Heck, why are you…

I honestly didn’t think about it until this semester, when I’m this very feminine person trying to deal with math and science courses structured for the typically male brain, and replete with subtle sexism...but there are literally so many different tricks that I learned as a relatively wealthy white person, that my…

White women can’t claim the same experiences of oppression that Women of Color can! There is literally one emotional space white women can’t enter-I call b.s.~

Not to mention the women’s center on my campus really doesn’t do much of anything...it’s not like they’re these super well funded centers that host tons of complex and very effective organizations. the one on my campus is almost never even open.

I agree with most of what you’re saying. I didn’t say that the privileges trans women receive when identifying as male are the same as cismen! I don’t believe that.

No, definitely not your responsibility! But—yeah, I agree that Rebelgirl’s arguments were different from yours and the one other trans person’s I read. I’m sorry, and you’re right, I shouldn’t have conflated her argument’s with yours. Totally my bad.

You’re amazing, and is it weird that I’m jealous of your daughters? Because I kinda am...although to be honest, my mother definitely offered me self-defense classes when I was about 11.

I’m not assuming you personally don’t know the difference, although I can see how you would think that based on what I said. However, there have been comments made on this thread that make it clear that SOME trans women don’t know the difference and haven’t educated themselves about it, which is frustrating to me. I…

WORD, and I’m not surprised. I literally had no clue how to get insurance or even what it was or how it worked, or what kinds of identification papers I needed with my car, or how to clean a toilet—because I was never taught those things, only how to be helpful and smile and be sweet. My parents were not concerned…

I get that it reads as trans-exclusionary language, but really what I’m trying to do is specifically talk about trans women pre-transition—which is why I used that phrase about five million times, which makes the experiences of people who transition at three or five only relevant to this discussion until they…

I’m so not shocked. At my super elite private school, I once walked in on my choir teacher lying belly-down on the floor with a senior high school student literally physically straddling him, giving him a back massage.