Because crying and humiliating ourselves and talking about being sexually abused on tv is always a good plan.

Don’t different people find different things hot, though? I mean isn’t this just an example of eurocentrism at work? Most non-European cultures I’ve ever learned of had entirely different standards of beauty, based on practicality and effectiveness in their own various cultures. Disappearing all of those differences…

I mean, yes, but I also think he’s kind of just pathetic. I mean, he’s getting old, never had any talent to begin with that I actually saw, and now he’s trying to put his life together.

Thanks. She probably won’t. She’s an adult now, almost finished with college and whatever she does from here on out is her business. No one’s holding her accountable for anything, and probably no one ever will.

I sort of think though that this is the inevitable result of using slogans like “eat the rich” and “die pigs”. Right?

I’ve never heard any of my queer friends talk about doing that, and I’ve never done that, either. I’ve never actually heard that described, even, outside of lesbian porn written by dudes.

Yeah, although I thought both those films showed us ‘lesbians being fucked-up and not sure if they are/want to be lesbians’, rather than lesbians actually doing their lives. Though Blue... didn’t either.

WORD. I thought The Lword had some really great sex scenes, but there are also a TON of films out there with really decent sex scenes, too. Just cuz they didn’t get softcore porn-y doesn’t mean they were pointless or less than this film.

I completely agree with about ninety percent of what you said here, except that I don’t think it’s really the actresses’ job to understand queer sex. The director made the choice to leave the sex scene unscripted, which naturally and inevitably meant a lot of fumbling and guesswork on the part of the actresses. I…

Also there were a LOT of queer women who had serious issues with the film. There are articles about that.

ew ew ew

I definitely agree with you that any white woman, however well-meaning, is capable of saying and doings things that are at best not helpful, and at worst even racist. Elizabeth Cady-Stanton and Susan B. Anthony I think are really great examples of that-both abolitionists, Anthony even participated in the Underground…

I wasn’t being passive aggressive, silly. I was being direct.

I think that there’s a difference though between mocking someone and making inappropriate generalizations, as opposed to criticizing someone’s specific speech or behavior. For example, I don’t wear this shirt, no one I know wears this shirt, and I don’t express these sentiments. In the comments in this section I’ve…

Thanks for the support.

I’m not sure where you got the impression that I ever said, ever, that you were not doing enough in the world. Choosing to do this is a choice, and it’s one you’re taking the time to make. Ergo you clearly believe this is important enough to focus on. I think that’s incorrect, and I have a right to that opinion.

Can we please stop making comments like this, identifying ourselves to others as part of the “in crowd” who know how to do politics correctly and are so successfully anti-racist that we’re even brave enough to critique racism in others???

Being judgmental is not actually a bad thing. There’s not actually a difference between that and having good judgment and the ability to make a decision.

Makes sense. I mean, I think trying to push anyone into voting against their conscience is wrong and an action that ultimately does more harm than good to the democratic process. I ALSO think that deciding unilaterally that any choice is good, so long as it is The Only Choice You Can Make [without being labeled…

I think that Saldana’s point, though, is reasonable. I think trying to silence any criticisms of anyone who helped put Trump in power is the incorrect strategy. I also think that blaming anything other than white privilege and racism and sexism for his rise to power tends not to be so popular these days on this…