I think he could have down played the feelings he had for the person he cheated with. He could have downplayed any premeditation (“I was drunk and next thing you know we were kissing” When actually they had been flirting for a long time leading up to it). He could have downplayed how many times it happened. Maybe it…

I was so happy to see that the advise was don’t tell her.  If you tell your wife you will transfer the emotional pain and burden of the secret to her, you will feel better, she will feel worse.  And it is unlikely your relationship will recover. This your pain and shame to endure. 

You’re wife didn’t bring it up again because she wants to know more. She wants to know if you’re trustworthy, and she thinks more information will help her know for sure.

This crisis you’ve been suppressing isn’t meant to be resolved, it’s meant to be endured.

I now love Lilly.

Why do the people who attack Senator Harris for being a prosecutor remain near-unanimously mute about Amy Klobuchar, also a federal prosecutor?

I saw a friend of a friend post last week (on the topic of Bernie’s campaign ending) asking when the democratic party was going to “invite us to the table”. I so badly wanted to say “look, there’s a chair - unless you want another 4 years of our current dumb fucking president, I suggest you sit down and get with the…

In theory if you isolate yourself from anyone else and only going to the grocery store and other essentials it should be fine, but you are travelling state to state, stopping at multiple places for gas and food, you would be spreading the virus unwittingly and irresponsibly

You can love someone, recognize that they are wonderful and lovely in many ways, and yet, still not be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you break up with him, it’s not like you’re saying he’s trash and you hate him, but that in the end, it really seems like your lifestyles are quite…

Not sure who will end up reading this reply, but.... thank you so much, everyone.  For all the advice and replies.  It’s so helpful on so many levels.  Love you all.  

Advice is easy, but don't settle for less abusive than previous partners 

Remember, abuse comes in many forms. He clearly isn’t physically abusive or anything, but? This passive aggressive lumpiness combined with refusal of earned money (but accepting you forgoing a paycheck???) and trying to dictate what you can drink? That’s controlling, and controlling people can be abusive without ever…

End this, now. He’s shown you what kind of man he is. That’s NEVER going to change. The difference between “ok” (his response to your life plans) and “I am ALL IN, and let me show you how ALL IN I am” is the difference between misery and a shot at happiness in life.

I was going to say have an honest conversation with him about whether he sees this passive acceptance of his business tanking as how his life is going to be, and that would give you your answer, but that’s not even right, he’s actively turning down money. The deciding who can drink and who can’t drink is a red flag,…

End it. Right. Now. You can be done and move on with your life.

Food is a great unifier, and at a time when we’re all stuck inside, with a lot more free time, feeding ourselves and our families, it’s a special way for all of us to bond. I like to cook anyway, and have been sharing some simple favorite recipes with friends via social media. I also love (and get inspired by) what…

The girl just wrote a personal essay about how she barely had enough money to pay for the bare necessities *before* her husband got laid off, and you thought it was a great opportunity to attack how she makes a living. It doesn’t matter that Joan is not your friend or that this is not her personal essay, because…

Aniston is living the dream. no whiny husband, goddess circle on fridays, Cabo with comedy writers 3x a year, and brad pitt texts sometimes to wish you well. 5 stars

The guy *was* full of shit and a horse’s ass, though.

Lol - while Jennifer spends the rest of her life living on the beach with her doggies, smoking the finest herb California has to offer, and spending her Friends money.