Some of us thought it was for underwear.

Ellie can you edit the Seamless to add GrubHub for those of us who thought Seamless was a t-shirt company?

WHAT IS SEAMLESS.

Lol

I guess what I want to better understand is how you can feel like both relationships carry equal weight when you're about to be married to the one you've been in a longer relationship with? Is he not at all hurt that you feel as strongly about a relatively newer relationship than one that you've been building with him…

"Husband-Elect"?

I used to be poly, for about 5-6 years in my early 20s, until I realized that there's a physics problem involved.

Love requires time and energy. Time and energy are finite. Thus, there is only so much love one can actually give, long term, without eventually becoming drained & exhausted.

If each person gets half your…

This. Not to mention the fact that anthropologists and evolutionary psychologists aren't necessarily all in sync with the "we evolved to be polyamorous" theory. There are a few different schools of thought that say a few different things.

Don't forget the condescending nature of that idea, which is that people who aren't poly are either in denial or less "evolved."

This isn't a community. Its the internet.

It's very nice that you found an environment in which you are happy, but I do wish people would stop deferring to evolution every single time. The people who write books and push the idea that humans "evolved" or "didn't evolve" to be monogamous or play football or drive a Toyota Cressida do so with very flimsy…

I dont know how to put my words to not come across as judgemental..ok, maybe since I have an opinion I am judgmental anyway, but then I hope I dont come across too disrespectful. Sometimes it seems to me that our society is getting more and more dehumanized, and as an effect, so become our relationships. I mean I was…

There was an article about this show (I forget where) that notes that there isn't a single major character who is a white, straight man. I think they aren't perfect on race—just as 30 Rock wasn't. But "insanely racist" seems like an absurd overstatement. I really love Dong's character and am impressed that he's the…

A really common critique I hear of Dong is that the actor who plays him is Korean, whereas the character himself is Vietnamese, which reinforces the idea that Asian actors, cultures, and identities are basically interchangeable. I think that's a really fair critique, but I still really like Dong? I think he's a…

Or a portrayal of a recent immigrant who is not Mexican, which is what I think a majority of white Americans think is synonymous for immigration. (And when yr Mex a common thing you hear is you know, are you "illegal.")

Yeah, that's not the part of the story I think is objectionable. If anything, I'd say that in the age of Strong Female Characters, there's probably some room for female characters who aren't necessarily action-oriented but who have other positive traits. If the story's done well, there's something there that a lot of…

I'm going to chime in here and say that in modern TV, we don't have a lot of distinct asian leads, but we have enough "asian" diversity casting that primarily focuses on american-born asian characters that don't comment on racial history that I think it's actually rare to see a main asian cast member that deals with…

I read a criticism of the show that Kimmy too easily acclimated to life outside the bunker and wasn't affected by her captivity, and I was like, so, I guess you totally missed how she often wakes up screaming and has phobias she can't remember the root of? Beneath the bubblegum, there's definitely a dark streak, which…

Yeah, there is actually something very real (albeit cartoonish) about the way it handles trauma. Sure, some people become dark, substance-abusing messes after surviving trauma, but some don't. A lot of people with sunny dispositions continue to have those sunny dispositions, while simultaneously suffering from at…

I have been enjoying this show so much.