Having lived adjacent to two Amish communities, unfortunately I can tell you they were pretty violent in both places. The adults may not drink but they can still be mean as hell, just like any folks who belong to an isolated religious sect with strict gender roles.

Having lived adjacent to two Amish communities, unfortunately I can tell you they were pretty violent in both places. The adults may not drink but they can still be mean as hell, just like any folks who belong to an isolated religious sect with strict gender roles.

Having lived adjacent to two Amish communities, unfortunately I can tell you they were pretty violent in both places. The adults may not drink but they can still be mean as hell, just like any folks who belong to an isolated religious sect with strict gender roles.

It had always happened with men my age who I was not attracted to, but luckily I only had a few skeevy older men to deal with when I was in my teens. It was not until my mid-twenties that I regularly had to deflect men old enough to be my father or grandfather (usually they were customers and clients at my work, but…

Yikes, who are these women you’re dealing with!?

Yeah, it’s also the same behavior that my sorority sisters discussed in detail before they took freshman pledges to their first fraternity parties. To prevent a predator from isolating a girl, we had a strict rule that you went as a small group with a designated “Sober Sister” whose job was to keep watch on everybody…

I am laughing because it just dawned on me that I created my own fail-proof opener back in the day. I lived for a time in my 20's in a very small town where there was a large military base. So at the bars, the 3 categories of guys were local guys, enlisted guys, and college-educated (officers or military contractors).…

Nope.

Yup.

Thank you for putting it so succinctly! I am saving this for all future arguments that go down this rabbithole.

Yeah, I read that and was like wait, when do any of the girls get off?

Lol - I recognize myself in your analogy. I was an awkward girl and rarely got asked to dances or formal date events. But I had my pick of good-looking guys on the dance floor at parties and clubs, where the assumption was that it might lead to a hook up or casual relationship, but not necessarily a dating…

I’d like other alums to see this and hopefully contact International about their awful leadership on this. Any chance you can cross-post this to Jezebel?

Hey, I’ve been googling because I’m a Phi alumn and my sisters and I are trying to get International to answer for their awful leadership on this. I know about the Haley Barber video at Alabama, and remember Alabama’s ridiculous recruitment video - do you remember details of any of the other stuff? I swear there was…

I went to the Alpha Phi International Facebook page and guess what I saw... not a damn official word about any of this, and then a bunch of comments from college-age sisters being defensive and saying, “This was just a few bad apples!” Nope. If it’s a bunch of sisters from different parts of the country and if…

I rushed at 17, spring of my freshman year, so I don’t know that that part is true. That said, 17 is still about 10 years past when you should start being punished if you do racist shit. .

I am a Phi and AM PISSED that International has done nothing other than a media statement (and apparently it was ridiculous as the GW chapter then had to issue a second statement, which said in part, “We recognize that our earlier response, supplied by our National Headquarters, did not reflect the severity of this…

I’ve written to International, and also messaged all of my friends from my chapter encouraging them to do the same. I’m livid that they don’t have a statement up on social media about this or the woman with the stupid video from two weeks ago.

I was in a small Alpha Phi chapter, at a small school. I joined it precisely because the girls were thoughtful, kind, and down-to-earth people, not at all like the stereotypical sorority girls. We didn’t haze or shame pledges, and we were the only sorority on campus that was not all white. Several of my sisters went…

Because they’d worked for the US Army as translators, and taking that risk meant that it was no longer safe for them to stay in their homeland.