White woman here. I am uneasy with what you said but struggling to find the words explain why. All my life, I’ve heard other white (and sometimes Hispanic) folks say what you said, but never knew what to say to them either. The other folks who have replied to you so far have been pretty succinct and accurate, though.

Oh, he hurt a woman first? Surprise, surprise.

Green America (formerly Co-op America) has a green business guide that I have found helpful. They vet their members for fair trade and sustainable practices before listing them. I also like became a member because I like reading their magazine and learning about all the cool businesses out there that I would never…

I am also tall and large, and I LOVE eShakti. You can custom order stuff made to your exact measurements, for like $45-$65 a dress in NATURAL FABRICS. Sorry for all the caps but it’s just so damn rare that I must spread the word to all big women everywhere.

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Yeah, I worked in a veterans home for a while, and some of the families would talk about how the behavior changes were so heartbreaking. Their parent had been a super nice person, but then as the dementia set in they became increasingly paranoid - which led to a lot of fear and anger aimed at anything that felt…

Lol your comment makes me think of the time I was dressed in a big black poncho, steel toed boots, baggy carhartts in the pouring rain, walking to work... and someone still rolled down their car window to holler something at me! I am tall and they were driving up on me from behind, so I’m not even sure how they…

I had a friend who was sexually abused as a child, and she would laugh whenever she was scared. I was not sexually abused as a child. but definitely lived through some craziness where the only way I could be safe was if I could calm adults down.

I think there is less of a chance they would do it in front of people, at least? I am a larger white woman in a male-dominated field and I’ve had plenty of male customers of all races get creepy with me. But while guys just go ahead and disrespect my black coworker even in front of our male staff, they usually make an…

I work in building materials salvage, and we have a phrase for that... “Oh yes, that house was remuddled in the 70's”

Curtains over doors are a Victorian thing - not just a “someone took random interior doors off the hinges in this rental house years ago and now we tack up blankets to close off the cold rooms in the winter to save money on heating?” This is a revelation to me. I feel much classier now.

Yeah, looking back my dad was a big feminist, more so than my mom. He was really thoughtful and concerned about supporting his female coworkers, making the world a better place for women, and trying to support his daughters and raise us to deal with all the crap that would come at us. From the way he lived his life,…

Just want to share that meeting Levar Burton is one of my earliest memories. My baby sister was in Children’s Hospital for a test, and she and my mom were upstairs while my dad was letting me run around the lobby to burn off energy. For some reason I had little bells tied to my shoelaces, which I was very proud of. I…

Oops! Was trying to reply to Poovey Farms :)

I have seen the disparity often enough that it rings true to me.

I got it young (got it from drinking after my dad even though he always tried to be careful), and I got cold sores every fall thanks to the stress of going back to school. When I had a cold sore, the elementary school principal wouldn’t let me come to school without a bandaid covering it. It was quite embarrassing,…

Yeah, I thought that story was fake too, mostly because I have done my share of home improvement and ripping down drywall, and the description of the amount of dust covering the apartment wasn’t realistic. I wondered if it was based on a few true elements, and then embellished for dramatic effect ... and now I’m…

At the age of 8, if my mom needed to do grocery shopping and we didn’t want to go in, me and my sister would sit in the car with the doors locked and read books. If it got hot, we knew how to roll down the windows, and we also knew how to lock the car behind us and go on into the store to find her. We were also smart…

What about all the ministers and churchgoers who, ya know, did a heck of a lot of the organizing and funding ofthe civil rights movement back in the 60's?

Yeah, in the trailer park down the street, plenty of people didn’t have real curtains... but in that case, they still had sheets or blankets tacked up.