That is exactly how I felt. I remember feeling very empowered when I first started the pill, but I think taking back my natural cycles made me feel even better. I am still working on shaking the guilt I [shouldn’t] feel about my partner having to use condoms, and I do feel a bit nervous about relying on condoms alone.…

Can you feel it up there by your cervix? I mean, I guess I don’t actively feel a tampon unless I contract the muscles, so this is probably the same?

I’m not sure about that. I’ve only gotten a prescription at my annual but I didn’t think that was a requirement. I thought any birth control method prescribed by a doctor would be no copay. I certainly hope that’s the case! It could be insurance-dependent. I’ll have to check on this.

Nah dude. When I was on the pill we still pulled out. Now we just use condoms and I kind of wish he still pulled out. I’m considering this diaphragm combined with pulling out, now...

Preach. Slight sensation loss v. sex being painful for me, me having less interest in the whole thing, me not knowing if my feelings are mine or induced by extra hormones, list goes on? Suck it up, buttercup.

Like the female condom, a diaphram can be inserted in advance. This helps prevent the complaint people wage against male condoms about having to pause before insertion.

It only seems to make sense so it’ll be free with insurance. I wonder if it will start prescription and then become OTC. Maybe it’s the gel you have to use?

I don’t shower everyday BUT I hateeeeee not having a washcloth.

I remember joking about marrying for tax breaks with my boyfriend when we were just friends. We knew each other many years before dating, too. I could see us having a similar story (and I want a ring with mine and my partner’s birthstones if I ever get engaged).

Whoa actually that would be a good way to go with my guy. I never really could think of what I would do in lieu of a ring but you’re onto something.

Yeah dude. Like once you’ve kind of settled but this was the first person you were really with so it’s weird. Like, at first when I was new and exciting so was the sex life (except when I cried about possible vaginismus and he didn’t seem to care in both a sex-is-not-all-I-like-you-for and an I’d-rather-sleep kind of…

He’s awful and House Party could be sung by Backstreet Boys but in a bad way. It enrages me that he gets country airplay and very country sounding women do not.

Holy shit I said the same thing. My boyfriend doesn’t like the song but didn’t really get what I meant. I said white knighty but that’s not quite it.

Ugh how can I develop this kind of sexual relationship in an existing LTR?

Yeah see, I really like the idea of these detailed suggestions to try because it’s difficult to know how to direct someone. You can’t exactly figure out what head feels good using your own fingers and I’m so uncomfortable speaking up.

There are many Lynchburgs. It’s a reference to the name Lynch (I actually know someone with this last name).

Definitely more okay with swallowing than licking it off, but I’ve never done the latter so I would try it I guess? I think it’s also easier to just be like GULP and that’s that.

Yeah! I remember it reappearing for at least a day. Lube can sometimes do that and it’s weird enough but the sperm thing is less pleasant for me.

OMG YES. And then, at least for me, it was like an extra source of pregnancy paranoia because it was a reminder that sperm can hang out for a few days.

Yeah, my partner and I started out using condoms and then eventually stopped (I was on BC the whole time anyway) and I used to tell him to finish inside (sans condom) because I thought that would be way better for him. Every time he would be all “ugh we shouldn’t have done that” so even on BC he just pulled out every…