Oof. Bi lady here, and I ended up with my male SO by chance. He sewed me pajamas for our first Christmas, cementing to me he was his own person and not gender-conformist, shares my interests, as well as cynical views and terrible humor. Before I met him I was wanting to never again have a relationship with a guy, and…

No, no direct abuse, but my cousin has been having to handle everything, because the SO was disabled from work, her company shut down, she lost her 401k, and has just, after FIVE YEARS!, finally gotten social security disability. My cousin has been carrying the financial and most of the physical weight in the…

My cousin is a lesbian and her SO has been a lot of work. I think that if my cousin hadn’t had such terrible relationships with men—not just sexual relationships, but family—she might not put up with as much as she has in this relationship.

My dad is doing way better. He finished his meds and has a lot of energy.

I don’t know. His comments about “paid for you” and his assertion of power over her, doing something with her personhood without her consent sounds very much like the power crime that rape is. While I agree that an overuse of this word is a bad thing, in this case, I think we’re looking at something in that same…

so along those lines you can’t rape a hooker??

I don’t know. Having his daughter watch while he forces a woman into something she obviously doesn’t want to do, thereby establishing this as a normal dynamic is pretty much the definition of rape culture.

OP said camera lenses can be male-gazey. This is a perfect application of OP’s statement. If going into someone’s face to shoot them against their will isn’t male-gazey-rapeish, I don’t know what is.

I don’t understand that mindset at all. Are celebrities not allowed to be off the clock? If someone started harrassing me on my day off to put together some spreadsheets I might even become violent

He said “we paid for you” and also didn’t respond to her “stop” and “no.” Maybe it sounds very radical fem but camera lens can be male gazey and with the non consent here this feels kind of rapey (no, that doesn’t undermine actual rape...this is a different degree but in my understanding there is a spectrum of…

Ever think about how it’s 2016 and we still can’t shake the belief that people are a commodity?

FIRST REPORTED INCIDENT OF A MAN TELLING A WOMAN *NOT* TO SMILE?!?

In cases like the one this article is about, yes, it is absolutely about policing how women should look, and I would not call that a mistake. It is harassment.

The dumbest part of all of this is that they want people who were born female but identify male to go to the bathroom that corresponds with their birth sex....which is female. Which means people who look like dudes will be going to the ladies room in order to comply with the law. So, why are they stopping people who…

What if a man follows another man (who is dressed as a woman) into the bathroom, in order to stop the second man from molesting a woman, BUT it turns out the woman already in the bathroom was drunk or dressed slutty? THEN what is he supposed to do?

Why in the world do they suddenly care about women being assaulted. No one seemed to care when it was a drunk guy trying to grope me in the middle of the street or on the subway or at a concert.

OH WAIT, ITS not about that is it

Dressed like a man? MAN WHO IS TRYING TO POLICE THE LADIES ROOM?

I am a tall, athletic female. I have broad shoulders. When I had short hair, I used to refer to it as my “hey, mister, you can’t go in that washroom” haircut. There is a certain type of woman who loves to say that line. It is the same type of woman who rushes out of her house when you park in front of it to remind you…

Even straight people who aren’t 100% gender conforming and/or compliant with gender stereotypes. It does everything!

They’re basically the Klan without the pillowcases on their heads.