RIGHT? My 6 week ectopic felt like labor. It was a solid week of terrible ovarian pain that came and went. They couldn’t locate during week 5 and it was mentally and physically exhausting knowing what was likely happening and waiting for confirmation the following week. It was a roller coaster of holding onto hope…

As a latino, how I fucking hate the word Latinx. Add a different vowel if you don’t like the O, but please realize that that X at the end is just linguistic colonialism.

At the same time, the powers-that-be have no problem using it as an excuse to weaken privacy protections or to reduce access to security tools for the overwhelming majority of users who are not now, and never will be, a threat.

I don’t blame her for trying to keep that experience as outside of the day to day as possible. I went the other way with a campus sexual assault by a classmate and I can’t say it was a positive experience.

Technically, the Dowager’s argument was for serfdom, not slavery. But also, she’s meant to sound like a relic—the narrative doesn’t take her side. It’s worth pointing out that, while the Dowager is waxing fondly about tying serfs to the land, it’s another wealthy woman (Sybil) who is defying her father and grandmother…

I understand your (well made) point here, but it also feels like a bit like chastising people for enjoying escapism and Downton Abbey for catering to them. Downton Abbey was popular because it was nice to watch pretty people in gorgeous costumes have personal dramas and only vaguely interact with the outside world.…

Well, I think people noticed. Her statement was supposed to sound ridiculous to the viewer, that was the whole point. It showed she was from a generation with dying beliefs and rules.

Just for the record, one of his opponents recently set up a billboard telling people to “Say No to Mass Immigration,” and has repeatedly posed for pictures with racist groups and a Holocaust denier.

See, I think the culture of secrecy needs to go away. There is a stigma to being a birthmother. People are often silent bc of judgment. I’m almost 50 now and used to think the past and pain would not be as harsh as time passed.  I’m open about it but many aren’t. The past isn’t dredged unless you kept it secret. Then…

Because when the kid turns 18, they are able to use these services without asking mom. The agreement is with the mother, not the child, even though this decision affects them. And what about the child’s children? It’s unrealistic to expect the agreement to stand across generations.

It’s not worth an entire post. All the good people of Jezebel go home on the weekends, leaving me behind to find and write stories to both entertain and appall you. I write them as fast as I can, mistakes happen, and I correct those mistakes as soon as the grammar-loving crowd types their displeasure.

I left a promising career in Opera and MT after growing tired and disillusioned of this type of environment. I don’t want to dox myself, but during my master’s program, my conservatory hired a prominent and popular opera director to head our program. I was his TA. He forcibly attempted to kiss me after a performance…

On top of my ex? He hated showering so only did it once or twice a month. He liked it when I would lightly scratch his back (not as part of sex, just as a relaxing thing) and I would end up with gunk under my nails afterward. My explanation is I was... going through a lot.

I think the more interesting story coming out of all this is how it’s all playing out in Europe vs the US. When the first set of accusations came out the Philadelphia Orchestra and the San Francisco Symphony immediately cancelled his gala performances. The LA Opera, where his is still the general director has…

Funny, they told me the opposite if i stopped holding my Marvel Comics in public i might get a girlfriend.

What the fuck is this, Rich? Why are you like this? Please stop. 

This is a good way of putting it. I’ve also seen it said that when you tell a girl not to wear a short skirt or get drunk, you’re really saying, “make sure he rapes some other girl.”

How does writing a song about bottoming give anyone the right to pry into this guy’s sex life? He wrote about it on his own terms, but that doesn’t mean he loses all right to privacy or that people/strangers can ask about it. If a woman, say, takes a nude photo of herself does that mean that anyone who photographs her…

I just don’t understand what’s so hard about it.

I think you don’t have any experience with older racists in nursing homes and other such facilities. They don’t like being attended to by nonwhite employees, in large part because they feel vulnerable. This isn’t a “fetch me a mint julip” scenario I’m talking about.