If you’re a parent, do you risk having a meltdown or do you get your child what’s most appealing to them?

Democrats have one option: push for full amnesty and legalization. Forget DACA, it’s not going to get solved. Just like gun control. Forget it, push for a complete ban on guns. Forget Citizens United, push for full public funding of campaigns. The time for half-measures is over. If they don’t get with the program the…

“...police don’t have the resources or opportunity to go back and check on victims a couple days later,” she added. The lack of immediate visible injuries “interferes with criminal justice approaches,” Sorenson noted, since numerous states require visible injuries “as a criterion for arrest.”

Two years then quits. Seems like a Palin tradition at this point.

Seriously that shit is scary. I’m an American citizen, born and bred, and it makes me wonder what happens when they run out of undocumented immigrants? Who would be next for ICE? Citizens that they just don’t like? All I can think is that the Jews in 1930s-1940s Germany were German citizens, but that didn’t stop…

On the contrary. Neither Dallas nor Braden is a name.

If she was 18, you wouldn’t be ashamed to say that she’s a little hot piece of ass.

That may be why you’re needed there more than ever. I experienced something similar: a woman in the group was asking for advice on her sex life, but the details included a back-story about a partner being fresh out of jail for an “extremely violent” domestic violence sentencing, and her being newly pregnant.

I was southern baptist. I became agnostic in my late 20s. Somehow the only indoctrination that really stuck was the need to stay married and work through all problems with my husband. When I finally left, I had guilt that I left but also guilt that I didn’t leave soon enough. Once I left, I saw a lot of red flags in…

It was an offshoot of circle of mom, which has some problematic comments of their own to stories of abuse. Fundies seem to be waiting in the wings to swoop in at the first mention of abuse or cheating to encourage women to stick it out for Jesus. I don’t belong to circle of moms anymore either for precisely that…

I’m sure your vision of the DV victim applies to some folks but I call bullshit on your insistent dismissal that social conditioning has nothing to do with why some, probably even many, women stay. My dad beat my mother for most of teen years into my early adult years, and I was not only an observer but an active…

To add to your point, it’s critical to remember how insidious patriarchal thinking is, precisely because it offers a clear if/then tradeoff for people who might otherwise be wholly marginalized, and completely without protection. If you wear the clothing we decide is appropriate for you to wear, and if you stay in the…

My sister is in this relationship. It’s heartbreaking because she will not leave him. He isn’t actually particularly brilliant or talented, he’s just managed to convince my sister he is.

Oh, believe me - I realise how profound the effects of traumatic bonding are, although not first-hand. Nor would I ever suggest trying to help a victim of domestic abuse by telling her “Hey, this is the way society has conditioned you!”

That is a pretty specific mom group you were added to. But still, you can see that kind of poisonous thinking sprinkled everywhere, even/especially in “spaces for women”. Jezebel was the first website I’d seen in my life where the majority of comments (if not all) say empathically “RUN GIRL” whenever someone shares…

I think that goes a long way in explaining why it can take so long to recognize abuse for what it is, but I absolutely do not think that traumatic bonding is fully to blame for domestic abuse being so prominent in our culture. And personally I don’t see how any mention of Stockholm Syndrome is viable to this…

A friend added to me to mom group once and wow, after a week I couldn’t take the awfulness anymore and exited. Any woman who talked about abuse was told to pray and let Jesus guide her, that the family was a pillar of God and it was her duty to be the kind of wife to her husband God intended. Any awful thing written…

I’m in the grays, so I don’t know if anyone will see this, but I’ll type it out anyway.

When your first instinct is to arm yourself against your own son, there’s some serious fucking issues that need to be addressed. He may very well suffer from some sort of PTSD, or just “affluenza,” but holy hell, that dude needs help.

Honestly, I think Jimmy Kimmel should get a lot of credit for this one.