oh shit, glad I missed the speech because I am OBSESSED with true detective

o o o h god. lmao

Well I'm sure of this, not because of studies, but because I used to wear a shaper - i did it for about 3 months or so - and my digestive system WENT INSANE. Like (TMI alert) all the issues that a stomach can have, my stomach had. It was horrible. And it just plain hurt. Those things - if EVER - are for special…

A lot of this discussion is focused on white GAY males but uhh I've heard such similar statements about the inner "strong black woman" or "sassy black woman" from white people on the whole. It really was never determined by sexuality, but white privilege. And you know what? I just can't do the whole pile on gay men…

yo fuck you for that chicago pizza comment considering YOU'VE NEVER BEEN TO CHICAGO TO ACTUALLY TRY AUTHENTIC CHICAGO PIZZA. LIKE WTF BYE!

Right! Hahaha I always like swatch lipstick while I'm home during they day, mostly because I'm bored and my roommate is always like...so tell me why again you're wearing matte black lipstick with blue liner to putter around the apartment? Because it's fun!

Yep, I know weird.

yep. Cakes = large ass, basically.

Agreed, although I did think the eat the cake (cake is frequently slang for ass) was a reference to eating ass, so I thought, hell shit, Jay-z is going there, talking about eating ass on this mainstream song. I'm here for it. Beat the box up like.. etc was slang that was referring to him...well basically fucking her…

Agreed! Like sometimes I worry about it, but on the whole...eh, who cares, the people who I know for sure love me don't care so why should I.

Well I think most black girls lament it because beauty standards tell us that it's unattractive, that straight hair, like yours, is to be desired. And yeah, my mom is not only super confident, but also she's pretty damn smart and a powerful woman (corporate healthcare badass). She never really wore makeup until like…

I think the best part of the way my parents approached prettiness was to always couple it with intelligence and also just emphasizing the fact that I MATTERED. Also I think body comments are always fucking horrible to get over because in people's minds that's something they can "fix." Of coourse that's never the right…

Thanks for the advice Lucy! Yeah, my parents were pretty awesome, I'm lucky to have them.

same!

I really think the key to stopping this begins in childhood. In all honestly, I'm probably not all that attractive—also I'm an overweight black girl with frizzy curly hair, standards of beauty be damned—but I've never had much of an issue with self-esteem/worry over my appearance because my parents and almost every…

Except she totally does. There were like 3 years between Sasha Fierce & 4. And there were 2 years between her last two albums. Only one of those years was spent touring. It's only now that we're getting the overload.

I fucking doubt it.

Whatever, I thought it was pretty sweet. People and their derision toward the Kardashians is getting old fast. It's easy, I get it, but it's awfully boring by now.

*praise hands* touche eclat is seriously the holy grail. from warmed up death to fully bursting with life with a few swipes.

agreed!