To be clear - I have never watched an influencer video and I also do not use social media, so this is not my area of expertise. But I do have a job. And I had to sign some stuff to get that job. And every year they send me a new updated version of that stuff to sign to keep my job. I’m pretty sure in that pile of…

I also worked with a woman like this. And she was a social worker no less! She was a little different in that as long as she was getting her way, she mostly kept to herself. But thing is that getting her way basically meant she didn’t have any accountability, she got to take off as much time as she wanted, she could…

Nope - if you don’t know the difference it’s not worth it.  

What do the actions of the police on Saturday have to do with the National Guard brought in on Monday. (The LAPD is a pretty racist shit storm and I don’t quibble with that). Know the difference between the two and the fucking time line.

It probably is to be provocative - no right thinking person could actually think this way. Either that or file under “willful ignorance” or “youthful stupidity”. But pretty bad any way you slice it.

Wow! What a dickish post. I live in LA and we have been sheltering in place, cancelling plans and hoping things will calm down as the professional looting and riot crews have torn through the city. The National Guard is protecting business that have been ravaged by looters and protecting citizens from professional…

Great point about average merchandise at average prices. Back in the heyday you mention - people also didn’t have a lot of resources to research, find and acquire just the right item for them. You needed a stereo, you went to Sears and picked out a stereo. Now - you can read about the best home sound systems for less…

I often wonder how people like this manage to maintain any type of relationship.  It would be really hard for me to see some literally lie for a living on a daily basis, but then actually trust them in a relationship.  If you can stand up there and knowingly lie when the truth is easily verified, what kind of lying…

Most people in younger generations do not want their “mother’s” ... anything when it comes to personal expression. They don’t want their mother’s house, they don’t want their mother’s fashion, they don’t want their mother’s dishes... and so on. People think of Millennials as these silly youngsters that like avocado…

I know it is bad form to speculate on what is happening outside of the information we have... but it’s distinctly possible that she DID find out about some... inconsistencies in his story from someone, and bless her she’s trying to give him another chance.

Yeah this is always the “radical honesty” example people bring out. There are a million and one ways to answer that question that do not involve cruelty. My roommate and I have a policy of being pretty radically honest with each other about clothes. Honestly “fat” is a very subjective term that is meaningless. If…

My now ExH was a cheater so I come from the place of being on the wife’s side. Here is the thing - anyone with any self-awareness KNOWS that something doesn’t add up. My Ex would look you in the eye today and tell you he wasn’t sleeping with his whore (and he literally paid her so she was in fact whore). His cell…

Right - to borrow her deductive reasoning comment, part of deductive reasoning is a risk/benefit analysis. The benefits of going to grocery store include staying alive and procuring the things my family needs to stay healthy and survive. In addition - perhaps I could use delivery or another service, but I am fortunate…

I’m sorry to hear you had this experience. It seems like people get really wrapped up in an identity of self-sufficiency that becomes a compulsion and somehow contributes to giving them a sense of superiority. I guess to them the “prize” is the sense of “better than those lazy so-and-so’s” for... I guess not needing…

You make a good point, but I think that it is a two way street. Good managers recognize good employees. Good employees should have good managers.  A good manager is able to provide clear guidance and support so that honestly - people are at best neutral about their jobs.  I’m lucky that I work in a very metrics driven…

I was married to a guy who was a proudly professed “work-aholic”. In fact he was just a jerk with a personality disorder who used “work” as an excuse to get out of doing things he didn’t want to do. This sort of spilled over on me because I bought his schtick that work work work was all that mattered. If I took a sick…

I find that it is sort of self-selecting. I don’t do drama, and I mean in the way that I don’t really care enough about anything to really get worked up about stuff. As a result, I’m just not friends with those sorts of folks. I find them exhausting and erratic, they find me cold, boring and uncaring. We just are not…

That is a great article. If you watch The Good Place at all, it has a real “What do we owe each other” vibe to it. I have seen other advice/comment environments where how often people state that they would cut a person out of their life for some sort of minor slight is shocking to me. Like someone disagrees with…

The power dynamic is really bad. The folks that have to deal with these folks day in/day out (audio, lighting, make-up, effects etc.) have no power in the studio structure. You make a fuss, you get blackballed by a studio and never get brought in to work again. The folks with the real power, e.g. the camera facing…

In some ways it serves the reputation in the long run to be thoughtful. Not to drag on ladies of a certain age, but remember when Meg Ryan’s plastic surgery went horribly wrong? I would want to know who did her surgery just to stay away from that person. But I’m dying to know who does like Susan Sarrandon’s work. …