Lol if your gonna call me a name at least call me a dick. I'm a man. You seem like a anal hurt guy who's been cheated on plenty of times. I'm sorry for what happened to you but it's ok you'll find someone else who believes in fairy tales too.

And your a self righteous son of a bitch . Who probably believes in fairy tales and unicorns.

I'm atheist as fuck. But seeing this or land the way the family of the Charleston massacre handled the death of their loved ones I'm really impress.

ok ill give you that. But a bad decision shouldn’t ruin a great relationship if the infidelity was a one time thing. It was a mistake, one with bad decisions and choices. Again we will have to agree to disagree.

I totally agree with what your saying. If in one of my previous relationships my girlfriend had been unfaithful how would I know? Perception is reality so it wouldn’t matter if they did because I never heard anything about it, it wouldn’t affect me. People are just sitting really high on their high horse tonight.

Thank you for your personal experience. Thats the other thing many people aren’t thinking about. Divorce and kids is very complicated matter and if it was one time mistake I don’t think you should ruin a good marriage with regards to a one time mistake. Now in your personal case that guy was a straight up jackass who…

Not many people are being rational in this comment thread.

honestly I just hopes irony strikes and he kills himself.

No one is saying it's not a big deal. I think most of us know it's the end of a relationship. That's why telling the truth, in regards to a mistake, isn't always reasonable especially if you really love that other person.

Thank you for being honest. I know most people in this comment section want to burn you on a stake for saying that but I believe cheating is one those things some humans do because we are human and we are flawed. I for one have never cheated but I can see how a bad decision here a bad decision there can lead to…

This is bs. I believe hiding is ok and I'm a trustworthy person who has never cheated. You can also tell me secrets and I won't gossip it to the whole world. Your making very broad statements.

Way two different situations? Stabbing someone is illegal cheating isn't. Most murderers probably snapped and killed someone due to the inability to control themselves but they did something illegal so they deserve consequences. Cheating isn't right or ethical but don't compare to attempted murder and theft.

My stance of not telling the partner is due to a similar situation I heard once.

Jus like you accused the person who commented of being a cheater, you sound like you’ve been cheated on. Also I do agree I don't think most people in relationship have cheated on their current partner. Also I do hate this notion that cheater is a title you get and keep for the rest of your life people do make mistakes…

I don’t think anyone is saying that cheating isn’t a big deal. If anything I know it’s a huge deal. But what some of us are saying is that if our SO made a mistake and only a one time mistake what is the point in hearing that mistake. Ignorance is bliss sort of thing.

Again that’s not true. I’ve known people who cheated on their partner once and that was it. Mistakes do happen. Especially in regards with sexuality

Like a previous commentator said you live in such a black and white world. I don't think anyone would want to be friends with your self righteous ass anyways.

Yeah if karma did exist hitler would have been killed by a million fire ants biting his balls while the Jews were pouring vinegar in his pee hole. But that didn't happen. Also so many great people have unfortunate events happen to them so does this mean they fucked someone over earlier in their life.

I know! They are over simplifying the situation. I believe a lot of the people who have these harder stances is because they have been cheated on.

I'm just a believer that most people don't wanna harm their loved ones, so most people don't mean to cheat. But if you never knew your SO cheated then how would your trust issues be messed with. If anything finding out the truth would definitely ruin the trust in the relationship.