Ah, the classic "You're the real racist!" defense!
Denying that stereotypes exist does not absolve them of their power and influence.
Ah, the classic "You're the real racist!" defense!
Denying that stereotypes exist does not absolve them of their power and influence.
You out-negged him and that makes you The One.
Best Neg I've Gotten:
PUA: I'm sure people tell you all the time that you come across as an airhead, but you I think you're really smart!
Oh, god. I could be negged so easily. Didn't realize there would be a PUA Optician, I can never leave the house again.
They get so freaked out when it doesn't work. It's hilarious.
Penny's Guide For Fending Off Pick Up Artists
OMG... your description of the guy negging you and telling you to "work on it" just made me flash back to when I was on eHarmony and hadn't yet stopped talking to guys who weren't my now-husband. There was this one guy who dinged me on my love of overly formal speech and basically told me I needed to work on my…
PUA tactics are fun! I like any excuse to be a flat-out bitch to people.
You could totally work that into the touching part - you know, pick your nose, freeze for a moment as if wondering where to put it, and then just reach out and touch him on the arm. Accompany this with a 'what are your views on marriage?' type question, job's a good 'un!
Negging. I have been negged also. Had no idea that there was a name for it. A dude (who I thought was my friend at the time—how sad for us both) waited until my partner (now my husband) was in the restroom to tell me that "I'm really sexy, but I haven't realized my full potential."
'Kay.
An aquaintance of mine once got hit on by a snooty guy who just blathered on about his deep insights and reading material. When he finished, he said: "Who do you like to read?" She said, deadpan: "Cosmo in the can" and walked away.
Heeeeey, girl, you got beautiful oddly shaped eyes! Are you wearing contacts to correct for the toric curvature of your cornea? Oh my god, YOU ARE!
I stare at them, smiling, until it's creepy. Then I say "God, we will have the most beautiful babies!" and hug them. They run, fast.
I once got negged with "That guy [points to a guy he does not know is my friend] dared me to walk up to the prettiest girl at the party and ask for her number. Could you point her out?"
I think the best advice is that if someone picks up you up, kisses you or whips out his penis without your consent, call the police. If someone is touching you repeatedly — even if it's light "non-creepy" creepy touches, call a bouncer or a waitstaff over and ask to have them removed.
After reading this, I'm beginning to think the people who author these PUA techniques are the same ones who write in to Penthouse, etc. In other words, people who've never actually had sex.
This is great, and I cracked up so hard at the dance routine suggestion at the end. For real, though, the best defence imo is outright derisive laughter, or actively bringing up PickUp Artistry to their face - "I know where you read this shit, I know what you're trying and therefore it cannot make me feel how you were…
I want a PUA to try and pick me up. It sounds like fun. I would think "negging" would only work on the very young because at a certain point we as women mostly work out our self esteem issues.