Hmmmm that’s interesting and makes sense I guess - it explains why I could eat macaroons (before I was aware of their nut component) and not have a problem, whereas anything with actual nuts in it makes me really, really sick. Or rather, used to. Now I need to avoid all nuts so I don’t have a real issue.

it’s really for the best - she didn’t like me (to put it mildly) and she treated my husband differently once I came in the picture. We’re moving hopefully in a year and a half so we won’t have to deal with this anymore but right now things are kinda rough.

Yerp they can definitely steer the relationship. We’re dealing with that right now - his shitty family (his parents died this year, his mother yesterday) have cut him out yet still expected him to be their anchor whenever they needed it. I’m actually writing a book about it, it’s so fucked up. Suffice it to say that…

OMG I’m so, so incredibly sorry. I’m glad things are looking up and hope you have a network of strong, supportive people around you. We can be that for you but I want you to an irl safety net too. Wishing you all the best <3

That still sounds pretty not great :o/

That’s pretty terrifying. I wonder why you can eat them and not have issues until you get to raw peanuts.

ugh I can somewhat empathize with your situation. Had an ED and have been battling one due to stress and my allergy. It’s gotten better but I’m still working on it.

d’awwwww dogs are amazing even if I continually have to remind myself of that notion because our youngest handful is a bit draining. I’m sorry for your loss but oh so happy for your new addition to the family.

That’s awesome! I can’t wait til we can do the same. I love tacky Christmas decorations and absolutely live for the holidays :)

Coping - I’m chatting and working and procrastinating on my schoolwork. I did do some chores but not enough.

tonight is all about comfort foods - mac and cheese and maybe cheesy broccoli. I’m super into trynna gain weight (I’ve been underweight for awhile due to stress) so I’m now into eating ALL THE CHEESE and ALL THE PASTA until I’ve put on a few more pounds.

Trust me it is for me too. My MIL passed yesterday morning and the ensuing fallout promises to be an epic shitshow. I’m kinda managing but mostly going through the motions. It’s weird.

Anyone else allergic to nutella? Or tree nuts and peanuts as well?

This one’s pretty far up there. My dog got sick yesterday (stuff came out both ends) and the vet didn’t know why. He’s fine, on a bland diet, and we’re watching him like a hawk to make sure he doesn’t have any more problems.

I was actually wondering how many people went to their docs and requested benzos after the election. I could definitely see it happening and needing treatment.

This is why I’m so doggedly pursuing opportunities for students of color. I am going to continue and give them every chance I can because they need to know that they are valued, love, and are the future. This is what I told my kids last night - “when you’re in power, don’t make these kinds of mistakes.” And privately…

I just used that phrase with one of my coworkers. She cracked up. “Chris Christie in his cabinet?! The inmates are running the asylum.”

not well. my liberal professor who is usually a beacon of truth and rationality feels hopeless and is in Canada for some reason. I’m devastated and afraid to even check on my other prof. I’m avoiding calling my parents and my grandmother because I’m not sure how to reassure them and I don’t even know what to hear or…

Anyone else busting out the 90s grunge? “Jeremy” seems so appropos right now not gonna lie.

Thank you. He’s managing and so am I - we have incredibly supportive jobs, friends, and a network of good people around us otherwise. We are in the process of creating the family we actually want to have as opposed to the cosanguine one that tried to lay claim to us/him. <3