I think that buzz is a good first indicator and I would be hesitant if there was no buzz at all ——-but I will say that getting to know someone over time can add that little edge. He sounds really great, and if he has all the rest of that, give chemistry some time to grow. A lot of people really surprise you once…

I get that too - I saw a fair bit of that too early on, but as people got older, I think a lot of people mellowed out and became much more comfortable with themselves and their partners. I can't help but think talk is just talk sometimes - yes, it definitely does shape expectation and there is a lot of body judging…

I'm always interested about the "porn" shaping young minds idea, not because I don't think it's true but because I'm always interested in how relevant the cross over is. There is definitely a level in which someone overinvests in the porn idea (which is probably a more prevalent phenomenon now that porn is so common…

:( I was with you until the last line in the last paragraph - don't get me wrong, I think it is very problematic when people take fantasy to heart without knowing any better but I do try to have a little faith in humanity and think that a large amount of the population can separate the two. There tends to be niche in…

YES A HUNDRED TIMES. I cannot unsee this anymore.

I'm not going to defend F21 - but it's very interesting that because they directly "copy" out so many artists, suing liability is actually built into their business model. They actually calculate for funds to shell out to people in event of suing. (So if your friend can find a pro-bono saint or something similar,…

They can kind of have Russell Crowe? I mean sure the aussies steal a bunch of our things, but this one I'm kind of willing to let slide over. He's not a pavlova for fuck's sake.

Ashamed to say that Serial Killer! Jamie Dornan seemed much sexier, a heck lot badder and somehow less fucked up because he wasn't pretending to be a functional "dreammmm boyfriend" human being?

There's also a couple of (urban?) myths circa the Victorian era and the giant crinoline where heavy winds would cause women to literally blow off the wharfs into the water and suffer the same fate. Also, horrible things regarding to have to shit in a chamber pot.

That's a fair point - my current partner doesn't really have a problem with it, but then as a woman, I have more options on where a dick gets stuck I suppose.

I'm gonna say this though - I enema for special occasions (e.g. when sex is planned a lot in advance). Usually, I know pretty well when my ass is clean depending on what I ate that day/etc etc and for real, if you're going to be doing anal, its almost kind of weird to not expect a little grossness here and there.

As a lady who does ass play, uh yes. You don't have to scrunch up as much though, it can kind of be like ass up in the air, resting weight on your elbows. The alternative when "inserting it in" is to do it on your side, but this angle is just easier for gravity purposes and is generally how they advise you to do it.…

Definitely - I think (and this is me coming from a non-brit) perspective, is that actors have less

Definitely - I think (and this is me coming from a non-brit) perspective, is that actors have less
"celebrity" over there and it is more of a trained profession with few exceptions here and there for actors who have unfortunately popular roles (R-Patz) and those with serious scandals, see all of Jude Law and Hugh…

I once saw a episode of the American My Big Fat Gypsy wedding. Oh god was that first wedding kiss a massacre.

God lord yes. Think about the hilarious first time a penis slipped out of you during (presumably heteronormative) sex. Now imagine that, in your pristine never-laid-eyes wedding lingerie, full on wedding make up and expectations and imagine the true disappointment and awkwardness. It would be like watching virgin…

I don't see it as shaming rather than a discussion of fact and cultural circumstance. One is not better than the other overall but there are definitely things that are better in one particular system in both. In the case of discussing boundaries and consent kink reigns here statiscally. Id say negatives of kink…

I'm not saying that discussion is just for kink, but it is mandatory in kink for safety purposes so it's a given. There is overall more transparency when kink is involved in that aspect because you end up having to discuss that as part of having safe play. The more you discuss, the less embarrassed you are about…

I think that pretty much sums it up, because I would imagine that women who particularly enjoyed EPL (even if they did not undertake any kinds of paid journeys after) would also enjoy 50sog as another washed down "fantasy"-esque book. Clearly this woman is not you.

When Eat Pray Love, another relatively popular "book club read turned movie" came out a large segment of wealthy white women thought it was revolutionary and then all proceeded to take the same rather expensive path to enlightenment. I read a ok book with some great descriptions of food. Different strokes, different…