Right. Is her father Native? If not, how hard would it have been to find an actual Native to interview?

Agreed. Although, having grown up in the “Paris of Appalachia”, it’s startling to me how much Pittsburgh operates like a small town, while at the same time the difference between the city and 30 miles away is staggering. I had a friend in a rural area who voted for HRC because she wanted to begin a free wifi network.…

I can see how this helped. But i’m not going to contribute my own good choices entirely to outside influences and erase my own agency. It’s a bit of both. I’m a soft determinist :) (not saying you are suggesting I do this. Just in general, this whole discussion these days seems to be the “new” nature vs nurture).

I grew up with the city version of this family. I made better choices. Never been pregnant. Never considered sex without birth control. Never did drugs. I’m not above those who make different choices. I just looked at my family and knew all those things would only make my life worse.

Damon, I always appreciate your writing about these issues.

This is amazing. I am so happy for you!!!!

Thank you for reporting on this. Since SESTA I am worried about the safety of sex workers and how ineffective attempts to stop actual human trafficking are.

People have different reactions to sexual abuse. It makes me uncomfortable to see men on here making that connection to ALL sex workers. I feel it removes their agency, and is a kind if band-aid, simplistic way of talkinf about sexual abuse. “See! These people are damaged!”

Where are my fellow white women at? I read The Root to educate myself, plus I really like a lot of the writing, but don’t participate bc it’s not my space. This JezeRoot crossover is a good opportunity for us to engage in this space in a reapectful way (if that makes sense?), but I’ve been disappointed in the lack of…

I am sure you look great! And hey you just grew a human. Be kind to yourself :) My wrinkles, on the other hand...:p

I was told that, too! I dont want to bring my wrinkles with me. Give me my 22 year old self. Damn.

How about that.

They...couldn’t find any stories to turn into a film that were written by a gay person? 🙄 Feels like a weird kind of erasure. Idk.

I wouldn’t mind the age gap if the 17-year-old was like, 21 to his romantic interest’s 30 or something. Idk, I guess MeToo is coloring how I look at it. Also, the actor playing Oliver looks a lot older than 24, and the guy playing Elio is 21 but is so baby faced I was surprised that he is in his early 20s, so that…

The sexual relationship between the 24 and 17-year-old bothered the heck out of me, too. I feel like people were ignoring it because Europe! or something, but nah, it is weird and inappropriate.

I’m sorry that the insurer basically got to dictate how you use your pills. Ugh. Why do they limit supplies like that? It would be easier to get a year at a time, but I guess we women can never be trusted with anything. Sigh. Can your prescribing doc override that policy at all? Sometimes if they write it out that a…

I’m embarassed to say that I’m not sure—and by consequences I don’t mean that it would affect fertility itself, but wouldn’t it take awhile to get my period back?

Exactly! Helped with my hormonal acne, too :) I was on the same pill for a good three years before I went no-period though. I’m happy that it worked out bc periods are the worst. Will i be eating my hat when I want to get knocked up? Maybe, but not gonna worry about that before I have to. Enjoying the period-free life…

I recommend this. Why torture yourself if you have the option not to have a period? I haven’t had one in 2.5 years thanks to the pill and it is unbelievably freeing. I had to work up to it (ending the placebo pills sooner to see if that would cut the period short; it did) but so worth it.

🤣 well done