Data point: I have a rather fickle libido (it pretty much dies the moment I face the slightest amount of stress), and I would be okay with that kind of arrangement. Better than having the guy constantly pester me about it or quietly resent me for my frigidity all the time. Wouldn't take it as a hit to my self esteem…

The problem with real life Regina George types is that they're never really witty enough to make it worth putting up with the mean spirit. I do often appreciate them in fiction, where they tend to get better lines. (Because writers have the advantage of using all the esprit d'escalier they can muster).

No risk no fun.

Is there a harm in it?

I actually think Mimi Rose is worse than Jessa (maybe not in an ethical sense, but in the sense that I would be even more wary of her), because she's more subtle about it. With Jessa, what you see is really what you get (approximately; of course she often manages to be even worse than expected, but it never comes as a…

I don't think it's necessarily so much a question of hate but disinterest in the narrative possiblities of this particular character. Most of us just don't think he'll be endgame and are bored by the prospect of back-and-forth "he wants Jon/no, he wants Patrick/no, he wants Jon"-storylines. But you're right, maybe the…

"The problem is that, as hard as Hirst has pushed Jefferson Hall’s
Torstein to the fore in these first two episodes, he’s never been more
than, say, fourth banana in Kattegat, and his final fate, bleeding out
after the amputation fails doesn’t have the intended impact." - Speak for yourself; I got very attached to…

The problem with calling seems to be that she doesn't recognize your number and doesn't pick up. But now that your text has reminded her that she actually gave you her number, maybe your chances of her answering the phone are higher. Worth one last attempt, I guess.

Either she's into you or she isn't. I really doubt sending that second text will make the difference, one way or another.

I did list the hopeful option. But it's hardly the only one. And I didn't say anything about the likelihood of any given scenario, I wasn't there.

Oh, she might well be interested, just not enough to invest a lot. One is often intrigued by a possiblity, but in the sober light of day, the the cost/benefit analysis just doesn't shake out. As I said, maybe she's just honing her reply/has misplaced her mobile and hasn't seen your text yet. Maybe she's attracted, but…

I said "I'm too busy with grad school", when mostly I just wasn't feeling it, but it never occured to me to feel particularly bad about it. Who is really served by total honesty in such scenarios? I always appreciate people dumping me in a face-saving manner, but I'm willing to entertain the notion that this might be…

It makes a twisted kind of sense - in societies where actual homosexuality is considered unthinkable, there's also less danger to be mistaken for a homosexual (for under most circumstances in such a culture, only a suicidal person would openly show homosocial affection intended to be perceived in a not-strictly…

I spent last evening watching Pride and getting all misty-eyed when they sang Bread and Roses. Hearts starve as well as bodies, give us bread, but give us roses. I say gather ye rosebuds, put on that fur-suit and chalk it up as a mental health expense.

Ball's in her court. As someone who's super shitty with the prompt replies and hates the idea that people might take it personally, I'd say not all hope is lost (maybe she wants to impress you with her sparkling wit and is still busy honing her reply), but you should definitely hope quietly, and wait for her to do…

Sounds all well and good, but can it beat the youtube video of the guy from Better Myths retelling the story in his dorm room in the words and cadence of an over-caffeinated fratboy wearing nothing but a blue knit cap? Seems just like the perfect medium for that kind of material. (Not posting the link because I don't…

Stick with OK Cupid, hope for the best and plan for the worst. Good luck!

One decent way to say this is to just act accordingly. You've actually already pretty much said as much by going on that friend-date and not hitting on him. Just keep not hitting on him and the essential message should come across. The only part that's missing is that you _do_ think he's handsome, but trust me,…

"Perhaps she just didn't know how to break it to Adam and treating it like "no big deal" seemed best." - That's how I read at least. She obviously didn't want to have a discussion about this, and downplaying its importance seems like a plausible strategy for that purpose.

I wouldn't necessarily read her refusal to discuss it with Adam as being casual about it. No need to jump to conclusions.