In some places it's illegal to use a phone while driving, so maybe not always a good idea.

I remember that when I was a teenager my most intense crushes were on people who I didn't know. I would pretty much invent a persona for them, then fall for that persona utterly. It makes me wonder if there is a similar element in online interactions, especially since most people's online persona is constructed to…

To be fair, Gervais did once end one of his shows with a compilation of videos of animals mating (that was it, there was no punchline) and one of his most hilarious bits involves bestiality. So taken in isolation and posed in a non-hostile way I wouldn't have seen some of these questions as inappropriate for Mr…

Haha, he's like one of those serial killers who leaves clues for the police. Though I'm probably just saying that because I'm watcing "The Wire" right now.

It doesn't sound like this is what you're mainly worried about but... the women I look at in porn look nothing like the women I get crushes on in real life, or the women who I consider my "type". This is mostly because the vast majority of women in porn seem to be "conventionaly attractive", to a degree even greater…

Old players like to make jokes about young'uns being stupid for not understanding THAC0, but the truth is it was always wildly counter-intuitive. I don't think anyone wants to go back to the days of "all bonuses are better when they're higher, not lower... apart from that one".

Hey, my brother got attacked once, unprovoked. It started and ended with a bottle to his head, leaving him with big scars across his face and narrowly escaping being blinded in one eye. Ever seen someone get stitches on their eyelid? I know someone else who stepped into a situation to break up a fight and got a bottle…

"bodily integrity" is a pretty sanitised way to put it, but thanks for understanding I guess?

I think this depends on whether you are asking guys to call their friends on it, or confront complete strangers. With your friends you definitely should, but provoking aggressive assholes (and we already know they're aggressive from their behaviour towards women) is a big ask.

Light was my favourite novel of all time for a while, it had more going on than the Centauri Device. Nova Swing vaguely references an earlier novel, so don't start with that. I loved the setting and mythology of Viriconium, but I'm not a fan of (relatively) short stories so when it started chopping and changing I gave…

The things you mention are definitely a factor but, to be fair, I did once get approached very obviously by a pair of women. I was drunk, depressed and feeling shit about myself at the time. Instead of making me feel better about myself, all I felt was self-conscious, vulnerable and a little bit humiliated. It sounds…

Well I did actually like her for who she was, our senses of humour especially seemed pretty similar, which was great. If anything, I've had a strong tendency in the past to crush on female friends the more I get to know them, so being "shallow" is one thing I don't really worry about in myself. Believing that it could…

I know everyone's different, but there is a pretty vocal contingent here on Jezebel who talk about dressing up for other women, only wanting to dance with their girlfriends and being sick of guys hitting on them. That's pretty easy to fixate on (to the exclusion of all other possibilities). There's also the problem…

I appreciate the advice but "have confidence" is something I've been trying for years, it's the first thing everyone says about dating. I am getting better at faking it when I have to though.

It does for me too actually, I guess like most people I'm just harsher on myself than I am on others. The first time I ever got a crush on someone without even knowing what they look like was here on Jezebel (remember Hortense Smith?)

Easier said than done I guess, but that makes sense. Thanks for the advice.

That's a good way to put it. I also have a bad habit of only flirting with women who I know are unavailable, which I think I probably do for the same reasons.

This article doesn't really apply to me since I don't catcall women, but I do know that I find well-dressed women intimidating. Part of it is definitely that dressing up for me entails very little effort, mostly because I'm pretty clueless about what more I could even do. Me at my best is probably most women on an…

I find that I will actually physically turn my head, as if I'm trying to look away from the image in my mind. Stupid brain that doesn't have the equivalent of eyelids to shut...