That's what I worry about, but then I don't know if it's actually my appearance, or if there's other things I'm doing. I don't know if the actions I take to appear non-threatening are actually putting people off more.

Well, you can read my posting history here if you like, I'm no angel but I try to be as genuine as possible.

Ah, ok. well honestly, there are other reasons for me not changing my appearance. Mostly to do with being paralysed with indecision when it comes to change (not about actually liking it, I hate the way I look). I do keep myself clean though. I guess when I said "doing everything possible" I should have had a caveat,…

I guess I don't really see what you're getting at. If I saw a woman like that, I wouldn't find her threatening, and I wouldn't judge her for not conforming to what men want her to look like. I still feel sympathy for women who feel self-conscious for not meeting those standards, even if they choose to look the way…

But it's not about looking presentable, it's about being perceived as threatening. I feel like I moderate my actual behaviour a lot, but that means nothing because of how I look.

Can I ask what you would have called it? Also as a guy who has a lot of anxiety over expressing sexual desires I found that article a great comfort, even if that was only a small part of what you were talking about.

This is something I worry about constantly when I'm out. I remember reading a discussion about what women found threatening in men, and the subject of poor personal hygiene came up. I don't cut my hair or shave, and the clothes I wear are all pretty old and scruffy, so I think I fit the bill for that one. It does make…

Supposedly cats will stop caring about seeing themselves in a mirror or other cats on the TV because they can't smell anything. I know my cat stopped chasing things when he grew up a bit, but he was an outdoor cat who used to hunt, so he might have had the real thing to compare to.

I remember being told that US families who talked about being part native-american were usually saying it because it was marginally less shameful than having black ancestry. To use an unpleasant term, having a "n***** in the woodpile". Now the truth will never be known by descendents in many families. So I guess…

Find something you know people are going to do, then tell them the only way they can receive forgiveness when they do it is through you. Genius.

Fuck, why didn't I scroll down to your comment before spending 15 minutes looking for that meme to post.

No problem, you're making me jealous though as my GM is in the middle of finishing his masters so it's been a while. I think if you're going for fun don't be afraid totally ham it up too. I remember the things my friends and I enjoyed a lot when we started was being able to either play along with every trope we could…

Get your mum to let him know that if he wants to smoke in his room he'll have to put down money in advance for a professional carpet and curtain shampoo for when he moves out. And possibly a new coat of paint for the walls if you're really serious. It sidesteps an actual accusation, and shows him why it's not allowed…

What edition are you running? The only verion of D&D I've run is 3.5, and I don't really think it's that suitable for beginners, but if that's the system you're comfortable then stick with it. The main advice I would go with personally is to let people be imaginitive and ignore the rules if necessary. For example…

Pregnant? Cassie, I’m not a republic serial villain. Do you seriously think I’d explain my master plan if there remained the slightest chance of you affecting it’s outcome? You were pregnant two weeks ago.

"I thought it was fairly common to use "baby" as in "very young" looking. I had no idea that appearing youthful to someone is an insult."

You can discuss what you find attractive without insulting people who you don't. And if you don't get why saying that men without much body hair look like babies is insulting, I don't have much to say to you.

"younger men with little to no body hair just look like babies to me. Their lack of hair makes them look so young that it's a turn off."

Much as my socialist self loves to read instances of private schools being hellholes, I don't have the stomach to read that article right now. When people are under 18 you're basically talking about institutionalised child abuse.

Not sure if this is snark, but assuming you're being genuine, I can't think of a parallel. The posts about the upper class/aristocracy aren't too far off the mark though, I'm sad to say. The old boys club over here is a lot older I guess.