I actually take a kinder view (though I may be misreading you) of this—being an Orthodox Jew myself. If wearing sleeves is part of your values, then there are actually not that many options for dressy clothes (it’s getting better, but it’s still tricky) without expensive alterations, so you make do. I don’t know…

Don’t feel too bad; I was told by someone in a bridal boutique that it takes YEARS for stores to actually get dresses that match trend events like Kate’ s wedding, so sleeves are only just becoming more of an option now-ish, so it’s not like you missed it by only a year (and despite this alleged sleeve trend, I think…

It’s also not just the modesty! Remember this post? http://itheedread.jezebel.com/wedding-design… The designer said “It’s a different medium [designing an ebola hazmat suit], but it’s very much in the same world,” Andrews told ABC News, explaining that designing modest gowns for the rigorous dancing of Orthodox Jewish…

Orthodox Jews do this too. It it totally appropriate to stick a long sleeve shirt (and/or tank as needed for the neckline) under a sleeveless dress, even for really fancy things.

Have you seen this? http://forward.com/sisterhood/306… It’s generated cool conversation in my Jewish world.

I totally want to do an article/blog post where women from different cultures/religions do a conversation about their weddings. My desire is driven by my endless need to explain on this site that some cultures (Indian, Orthodox Jews, Greek...) have big weddings and that’s just the way it goes, but the wedding dress…

Oh and—this is key— in my circles, engagements are longer too (8 months for me, 9 for my sister)

I think it depends on which orthodox community you are talking about. Among my Modern Orthodox friends, I know only one who successfully got a dress from a gmach. This may be because I don’t live in NY; this may be because these women are looking for something that is modest while being a little more form fitting or…

On a blog post I wrote about Ferguson, a commenter tried to explain to me that lynching was NOT racially charged because some white people have been hanged by vigilantes. Uh. OK. Because God forbid we forget about any white hanging victims when talking about the history of racism and the killing of black men in this…

Depends on the relationship with the ex both in terms of how long you were together/how close to marriage and current communication. I don’t have a lot of personal experience with this; there was really only one ex that it might have applied for me but I had no communication with him post breakup (during which he said…

If by funny you mean horrifying.... EEK

It’s like the knot accidently tries to make things that are not related to sex, sound like they are:

There was some sort of contest where you could win 10,000 dollars for having the best Pinterest board that featured a specific dress designer and “the best use of pink” so I made a fake board (one of the requirements was that it be called “My Dream Wedding”) and even on my FAKE board I could not get myself to pin the…

1. How long of the engagement did you spend planning? Is this English? I could have sworn I was really good at English, and yet...

Woah. I did not know such a show existed. I think for the most part, people don’t think AT ALL about where their stuff comes from unless they are forced to confront it. And even then, it’s usually just for a short while (how many people do you think checked to see if their clothes were made in Bangladesh after the…

It’s because of the impact of movies like Blood Diamond. It’s what people know so it’s what they try to address. If DiCaprio and Jolie and co started talking about gold mines, then you’d likely see more conversations about that.

Ok. I don’t know you, though I hope that while you are profiting from the people whose ethics you think are insufficient, you treat them with kindness. I know I can’t address all the issues, and I also make decisions about how difficult I want to be to make other people concerned about the supply chain while they are…

And, full disclosure: I am careful about diamonds, but I am not careful about where my other jewelry comes from. It’s much easier to point it out to people on the Internet than it is to follow through.

Well, the bad news is that the good stuff is probably produced under abhorrent labor conditions too :-( http://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2015/…

My wedding won’t be until October, but I am sure I will cry, but not while walking down the aisle. In traditional Jewish weddings there is first a ceremony called the badeken where the groom is escorted in to see the bride, who is usually seated and surrounded by the female members of her family and her friends.…