I feel like "have their shit together but are falling apart in an interesting way" actually describes me and most of my friends. I would watch the shit out of that show.

"Sickening chumminess" - this is it exactly! I am polite and behave appropriately for the workplace (other than one incident that I have acknowledged and genuinely learned from that they said was unrelated to this criticism). But now I'm meant to be Suzy Sunshine all day every day? I call BS.

Yeah, they come to my desk to ask a question. I answer their question. They go away. And apparently cry, because I'm mean? Also, as far as I'm aware there haven't been any complaints about me so it's all based on my manager overhearing my answers and being upset on behalf of other people.

I had an interesting one last week at my first performance review with my current company. For the first time in my life I was told to work on my interpersonal skills. I did have a conflict with a coworker that I could have handled better and thought that was what they meant - totally agreed, no problem, am already…

Pity the photo's fake - he sounds like good company for a man who was abusive, misogynistic, homophobic and racist.

Thanks for making me google "fupa". (I actually can't even figure out whether or not I'm being sarcastic. Like, no, those images are never going to leave my brain and I don't love having another weird acronym to describe something I've never really worried about, but actually I kind of love that people come up with…

Thanks for posting that link. I was interested in this case but didn't follow the details beyond Jez, partly because I'm not in the US, so this was a really interesting, insightful read. I do love the New Yorker.

There's been criticism that the things she talks about - Cristal, Cadillacs - are frequently mentioned in hip hop and rap, mostly by black artists, so critics say the song is racist. I think it's not intentional, and I also think that sometimes people in the USA forget that not everyone lives in their social reality.…

I work with an asshole who is 31 and exclusively dates 19-22 year olds. He claims it's because he doesn't want to date women who want children (because all women closer to his age are deaf to everything except their biological clock ticking, you know) but I'm pretty sure it's because he's an asshole who needs to…

Yup - it could have been girls who were 14 or younger and it would have been cheered and accepted. But grown adults are gross.

Haha... no - we have all the vital things for the puppy (who is actually four so a dog, but new to us so still a puppy to me!) I'm not so hateful of shopping that I would make the dog suffer. So far the pet supply stores don't seem too busy at this time of year.

I second your pain. Some changes in living arrangements (got a puppy, lost a roommate) mean I have to buy apartment stuff, except it's so painful to even attempt to shop that I'm just not bothering... We'll just live without vital furniture for another four weeks.

Try central and eastern Europe. I'm on the tall side for women (172cm which Google says is 5'8".) and was hanging out with a Serbian friend, his brother, and a friend of theirs from Germany. I don't think I've ever felt so short before - they're all well over 6".

Huh... My extra mammarial growth did coincide with second year of university. I thought it was because I went on the pill, but this is also a distinct possibility.

Due to a long series of small things going wrong Mr Penguin was once more than two hours late. I was torn between mad (he often forgets his phone) and panic (he's dead or seriously injured) the whole time until it was basically "If I'm just mad then I won't be mad because he'll be alive and that's good."

Yes! And when you ONLY have meh or awful dates for a while then your sense of scale gets warped and you think any date that doesn't include you wanting to punch them in the face is a good one. I had that for about a year, including a brief "meh" relationship before going on that date and thinking "Oh yeah, THIS is…

It is wise, but can backfire. My first date with Mr Penguin was on a Wednesday and we ended up talking until 11.30pm, when he still had to drive 40 minutes home and had work at 7am the next day. So if it's bad then you have an easy escape, but if it works out you're a zombie the next day. A squishy, happy, hopeful…

I agree, and while I know this article is based on a particular study, I've been in plenty of situations where my male partner didn't come and it wasn't a big issue. It goes both ways. Sometimes I have to say "Today it's probably not happening, but I'm really enjoying this and I like it when you finish so don't worry…

Yes please! I'll take a box of 20. Do you ship internationally?

It's Anthony Ray Parker, as published elsewhere. His son has been fired from his job for his involvement, which seems like a pretty good move from his former boss.