Hey, I didn't use the word 'radical' (or feminist, for that matter). Nor did I say or otherwise imply that 'women suffer and aren't treated right because of women who don't cover up', nor that 'women get sexually harassed and assaulted because of female immodesty'. Nor that it's at all about earning respect as human…

No, that makes perfect sense to me, all of it.

This is what anyone who doesn't agree with you gets. Got it.
Somehow, I don't feel I'm losing out on any sort of thought provoking, intellectually-stimulating debate.

It is possible to consider how 'individual choice', as you put it, fits into a culture at large, without it being any kind of unholy oppression.

It seems a bit naive to look at an Ariana Grande as a woman exercising her rights to 'do what she *wants*', rather than just doing what sells.

Oh, you have a problem with her singling out Ariana Grande?
I didn't even consider that. I guess I assumed without giving it any thought that Ariana Grande is in cynical pursuit of success and doesn't really consider her place in the world beyond that. Whether she's being true to herself or is setting an example, or…

Lingerie model < Bond girl

In part. I mean, I tend to want to pinch anyone who starts by explaining that they're 'old fashioned'. It's typically shorthand for 'I have better values than you, and I don't have to explain the logic behind my adoption of this set of beliefs'. Which is lame. And in general, she tends to have a cranky tone to her…

I grew up in a big city with an abundance of dining choices. Olive Garden is just a different thing in that context. But reading your piece on OG has given me contact-feelings of affection for the chain.

Someone needs to coin a phrase for how I'd categorize most of these comments. House n* sums it up. The system rewards those who participate in their own oppression.

I dunno, maybe she has trouble explaining why it is that a woman of talent has to sell herself in the same way as a lingerie model might. And how sad and disappointing that is.
Or maybe she doesn't like that it's reinforcing the idea that you evaluate a woman's attractiveness, and if she passes, you might then, maybe…

Oh, god. Yes you did.

There are some background details that may help explain it, but I worry about being too identifiable on the internet. I know that's lame; sorry.

I said: Is it ever really safe to trust anyone sexually?
and you said: While the feminists would have you believe otherwise, no it's not.

Re: porn—I agree that some people take 'sex positive' to a very stupid place. There is room for at least a little nuance.

You do not sound thrilled with where you are sexually, so I…

That's funny; I got the same impression when reading (but was afraid to say anything as I thought that people might jump down my throat over it).

What flavors? I want to try this now—in the comfort of my own home, where there's no one to judge me. :)

There's a variety of feminist viewpoints on sex. I haven't run across the one that says "trust everyone." I won't say that it doesn't exist, but I'm curious where you found this.

It is interesting to get another perspective, but I think we're talking about two different things, maybe. I am concerned about a potential…

That does help, actually. Personally, I've given up on sex and am strictly playing it 'by hand'. It's more consistently pleasing, and I don't have to put up with bullshit.

It really helps to know that this is something other people think about. You're right about all of the above.

This is just a suspicion, possibly a stupid one. If I'm saying the wrong damn thing, please give me the benefit of the doubt, that it's just ignorance, and please do correct me. I'm wondering if the Chicago preference for Northern accents is partly due to Southern inflections being a local marker for race. It's not…

As long as there's no almond milk in my nutpunch, I'm with y'all.