I think it’s worse when you might *like like* him but you’re still not a morning kiss person. Then I'm like succumbing but only so I don't hurt his feelings and my internal eyes are like this the whole time: O.O

I’m super sensitive about my nose (still think about getting a nose job every so often) because of something my dad said about my nose when I was a kid. My nose is fine (and I even had one ex tell me that people would pay good money to get a cute nose like mine) but something about my dad saying that it was flat at…

The hookah places around me (and I live in a sleepy, suburban town) all were closed/reserved for Eid and when I stopped by beforehand, they were all blasting music and getting ready to party, so...yeah, it would be gold (and if my conservative lame town can do it, surely other places can too).

Was it because once she had a potted plant in the bedroom near her head + a shameless cat

So if for no other reason than this, weed should be legalized.

you can’t control what an ex will or won’t do after you are no longer dating. Women who will do that will do that regardless - the girl who dated “that black/Asian/Hispanic guy once” before settling down with someone appropriately white - this stuff also happens in heterosexual relationships. I’m sure to a grand many…

Yup - sadly, that attitude is around (hopefully it’s slowly dying?) and is also ironically rooted in homophobia because it is 1. assuming bisexuals are fickle, promiscuous, and do not know what they want 2. misdefining bisexuality (will end up with a man, not really into women, etc.).

I’m so glad to hear you got into that grad school. What a horrible man.

Is it weird that I think sleeping apart is SUPER HOT? Like they have a room and you have a room and then you invite each other into your rooms and then you can be all like “oh yes, I DO just wear this piece of lingerie while lounging around eating chocolates and drinking cocktails and painting” and then he can be like…

Other people have also given good solutions, and I’m adding yet another:

What about slipping them a tip on the down low? There was one place I worked where tips were NOT ALLOWED. However, the waitstaff knew of one spot where the surveillance cameras wouldn’t reach that was close to the register. Customers would leave tips there and with some palming sleight-of-hand you could take it. most…

Adding that “historically accurate” usually isn’t. Our history had a lot more POC than we imagine (hell, according to the Chinese American Museum in LA there were TWO Asian soldiers in the CIVIL WAR?!), but we all have an “image” of what life “back then” looked like. An image that is not always congruent with reality.

Tangentially related - I’m an actress (no one even remotely famous) and I found I did a lot better in auditions when I would show my script to my screenwriting friend and asked him “what do they REALLY want.” And he’ll give me the usually racist or sexist or both trope and...yeah it’s depressing.

Thank you! That's enlightening. Out of curiosity, how much are they legally entitled to by default?

She couldn’t have willed it to, like, a charity or something? That money could have made such a difference in a lot of lives AND her heirs wouldn’t have gotten it, but yeah, shredding works.

Case in point - at least two married men, with their happy, shining, WEDDING PHOTOS as their FB profile photos - have propositioned me for sex. One of them has written extensively (blogs) about how perfect his wedding/engagement was.

This kinda stuff kinda pisses me off in re: to judges because it reinforces the idea that we *have* to publicly show evidence of poverty and a sackcloth behavior before it is believed. Affording a retainer (usually $1000 and up) is really different from having, say, $200 extra to spend. Or having “designer” clothing…

I’m not the OP you’re responding to, but I started this last year/earlier this year and I haven’t back slid. I’m not as organized/clutter free as I could be if I was a hardcore fanatic, but it is still amazing. I got rid of 3/4 of my clothes; I love coming home to my room and all my things, and I think as someone…

How long do you have to leave the food out? Because I'm already leaving food out all the time (but not like overnight)

My tip isn’t makeup but timing - always smile like 15-20 seconds longer after they say “cheese” or whatever. I found that most of the problem is that the camera is SUPER SLOW and so it picks up the moment right after your smile falls, which is where all the “wstfgl?” faces come from. I smiled longer last time and my…