I have a reason to celebrate! After 5 years of waiting for The Asshole to fix the divorce papers he wanted me to sign, I went ahead and filed for divorce myself, back in June. This week, the judge signed the decree after The Asshole didn’t respond to the notice he was sent.

Maybe the reason they got together was to raise kids. They raised 4 grown up daughters and if that was their marriage goal, I fail to see how it was a “failure”.

“the reality is if two people were together for 22 years it was because they were aiming for a lifetime. No rational human being wants to start afresh after 22 years unless the relationship is irretrievably failed.”

I like this! The end of a relationship is not always a failure, and it’s sad that in 2017 people still judge it that way. If they had a good 22 years together and are able to split in some sort of amicable or at least civil way, then that is more than most people manage to accomplish.

Congratulations* on their long relationship!

It’s pervasive in other cultures too. My family is from Pakistan and, as is prevalent in several communities, lighter skin tones are unfortunately more preferable than darker shades. So I had to call my own mother out on that shit when she mentioned that so-and-so was too dark for other person of a lighter skin tone,…

My baby siblings are native. They’ve had “friends” call them the “n word”, too.

No she didn’t defend him she apologized to me but her loving and being with him meant she felt this was something she could overlook. His opinion that PoC are lesser was something she could look past. Loneliness is a bitch and I understand them not wanting to be single. But I won’t overlook it or have respect for you…

Oh I dropped them. At the time I was too stunned and hurt to say anything. It’s def a slur for Native Americans. Racist assholes still think being black or compared to a black person is worst thing anyone can be.

I will say this for the last time. Do not hold women accountable for the actions, decisions or words of their partners. Don’t. Do it.

While she wasn’t there while this conversation happened imagine what damage could have happened if she was. What’s worse it was recast with a white lead instead.

Her point about offering to give him a massage instead of accepting one is so telling. When we’re afraid we bargain and try to give narcissists what they want so we can minimize harm or plan our escape routes. I have no doubt that Weinstein will pretend that Nyong’o happily instigated the encounter. We smile at…

It’s not surprising that she is so intelligent and well spoken. Woc need to be so much more qualified than whites to achieve equal success. You won’t find many woc actresses without a quality resume of stage work and acting schools.

Would it help if I told you the story about my aunt getting in trouble with the secret service for throwing a whole cooked ham at Dick Cheney?

Amy Adams being snubbed for Arrival in favor of yet another Meryl Streep nomination was a true travesty.

Could have been Drew Barrymore who was in the first Scream with him. Could have been Jen Aniston as Courtney Cox was also in Scream with him. Mostly I’m just noting that Skeet Ulrich was in Scream.

I’m in my late 30s and I had an incident in high school right before prom with a guy who seriously bullied me. I have vivid memories of standing in the hallway of my school crying while he told me that no one liked me, and that everyone was upset that I’d chosen to sit at their table at prom (we got to pick from a…

It is really common for bullies to not remember what they have done because it doesn’t mean anything to them. They were “just having fun” and weren’t the one who was traumatized. I have read several accounts of people who confronted their high school or junior high tormentors, and the people often don’t even remember…

Of course he says he doesn’t remember anything. Why would he? When you are a famous person meeting a non-famous person, it’s far more likely that the interaction would just fade into the background of your memory, as opposed to when you are a non-famous person meeting a famous person. In 2007 I shook Barack Obama’s…

You know it’s possible to say things and not remember saying them because you grew up your entire life being able to say those things without repercussions or thinking about how your words/actions impact others. This is commonly known as privilege.