considering the form of BDSM practiced in 50 Shades is more patriarchal abuse than actual safe/consensual BDSM, I'd say yes, that is accurate.

Here's the real test: Is Jamie Dornan more attractive than Robert Pattinson?

Agreed. Christian Gray is a control freak, kind of OCD. No way he'd be unkempt.

Yeah, my bf is actually pretty hairless so I can appreciate it if people just have sparse hair anyway. Sometimes you can just tell that it suits people better than others I guess.

I actually like (naturally) hairless chests ALOT, but even I have to agree that he looks hotter with than without chest hair.

Thanks for the gif. I stared at it for a few minutes while I tried to get my rage under control.

Erin why don't you ever cite your sources about who is saying what about whom? It's always "a source" when did this become standard? You need to get these people to go on record or your entire post just reads like the type of gossip you routinely rail against.

Yeah, guys - it was just a joke!

You lose credibility when you attempt to argue that the word threat only means credible threat. He threatened it. You don't think the threat was credible, and you may have a point (although his later "I'm going to come to your place of business" tweet undermines your position), but that doesn't erase the threat.

"A high school senior recently told me that I'm Shmacked is more important to her than a college admissions brochure because it showcases what really goes on at a school, and that she can't help getting excited watching the videos and looking forward to the promise of unsupervised fun that awaits her when she finally…

Why did this guy have nude selfies in his work email in the first place?

"Sucking up to old rich guys you have no interest in beyond what money they can give you isn't a good look unless you're costarring in a madcap fifties musical romcom"

"Sucking up to old rich guys you have no interest in beyond what money they can give you isn't a good look unless you're costarring in a madcap fifties musical romcom, but it's an even worse look when you're the old rich guy expecting to give money and get some of that pregnant sex in return."

MADELEINE, STOP SHOWING EVERYBODY SEXY PICTURES OF MY CELEBRITY BOYFRIEND. STEP THE FUCK BACK, LADIES, HE'S ALL MINE.

I have to pipe in with - what planet (or at least what coast) do you live on?

My kids have both and while mine is the throwaway, that was largely for aesthetics. The names don't sound good together the other way around. Also using my husband's Swedish last name allowed me to give the kids cool Scandinavian names that sound good with the official "last name." I'm all about doing what sounds…

One thing to consider for both sides is that taking that father's name isn't some universal thing, but an arbitrary convention that each culture has picked semi-randomly so they can do something easily and consistently. Many cultures with very defined and unfair gender roles will use the mother's name.

I know I'm supposed to pretend to care about how people feel about their family history or whatever, but honestly- it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what name your kid has. I think 'to prove a point' is honestly the most legitimate reason to give a child the woman's last name, because at least that ostensibly…

"In a family quoted in the above link where the mother was Korean and the father was Caucasian, the couple chose to give the child the mother's Korean name to preserve heritage." Because Caucasian means you can't possibly have any family history? Fuck these parents.

mellanam is middle name, for those outside of Sweden. I have a doctorate and publications on my maiden name and I've been very pleasantly amused by the swedish attitude to marriage and naming (I'm not swedish born, as you can guess from my name.) my colleagues asked which name form I would take, and a quick straw poll…