I guess I'm hearing her differently based on my own experiences with love.

It's been terrifying getting into a new relationship every time because I know the pain that can come when it ends.

Obviously different than loving your kid and being scared of losing her. But, similar in the way you know you may very well be…

I think that person was saying that looks don't matter when you're deciding if a comedian is funny.

But I do see your point.

I found loving my newborn baby totally overwhelming. I knew for the first time in my life that if something happened to her I wouldn't be able to survive. That's a terrifying reality of love.

Her point was that when critiquing Oswalt's work, no one cites his looks as part of the equation. Yet this critic used Schumer's looks as part of his critique of her skill as a comic.

I could be wrong but I think sometimes it can be that it's the right person and it's so hard to let yourself *be* in love because once you acknowledge that you're in love you open yourself up to the pain that might come from breaking up.

If you've been hurt before that's a huge risk to take, to risk going back to that…

I went out with a sociology professor last night who calmly explained to me that my kids are likely involved in some serious Flowers In The Attic shit because they shared a room for a few months 2 years ago when they were 14 and 12 and their dad and I first divorced.

So yeah, I'm going to stay away from sociology…

This isn't the stuff that makes marriage unbearable though.

When you start to hate the way he smells or the fact that he can't stop at just one drink or needs so much ego stroking you'll never be enough for him....that's the stuff that you can't get through.

Tissues? It's funny-maddening not maddening-maddening.

I haven't seen these two mentioned:

The contact solution. I would watch him and just marvel at how much he could use. Not just a little bit on the contact, he'd hold the contact between thumb and index finger and then just Make It Rain contact solution like we were the Fucking Rockefellers or something!

I begged him to…

I don't miss much about my marriage but God the Pantsing was so fun....every single time.

My sister in law always says two things:

1) "Oh My God Your Brother Must Have Been Horrible To Grow Up With. I'm So Sorry!"

and

2) "I AM NOT YOUR LITTLE SISTER PLEASE STOP TORTURING ME WITH THE PRANKING!!!!"

Right? I have never in my life thought everyone should have a child. In fact I feel terrible for women who have decided to not have children. To be constantly questioned about that choice. To be put in a different box because of your child-free choice is horrible. And horrible in so many other ways.

Having kids is…

:/

I find this group of people to be shockingly anti-mothering in general.

I'm always surprised by it but shouldn't be.

My dog is so weird. She leaves food in her bowl all day long.

My cats on the other hand are pigs.

That's what the rescue said my dog was but I don't believe it.

Bell Isle August 2014. Eastern edge of the island facing south east toward the Gross Pointes (Canada is to the north east). Looks pretty blue to me. :)

Yikes!

My ex was really, really into his physical appearance but guess who picked up the household/child rearing slack left by 10-15 hours of running each week training for never ending marathons?

And then I was shamed for not 'keeping up" my appearance. Ooph I bristle at that term.

I feel like the pain caused belongs squarely on the shoulders of the person who made a vow to be faithful and didn't get consent to be unfaithful.

I feel this really strongly as a woman who has been cheated on and harbors zero ill toward the 'other woman'. He was the dick, she owed me nothing.

Yes you really have to think, "Is this a punishment I can follow through on? Is it going to be worse on me than them?"

My ex was terrible at making huge threats of (largely ineffective) punishments that I'd have to enforce as the stay at home parent. Ugh. You gotta come up with your go-to things that are a bummer for…