As a trans woman invested in owning a vagina, literally (monetarily) and figuratively (emotionally), and physically (yeah that one is obvious), I find this silly. If there are issues with the play, then add some monologues about SRS vaginas. I think that would be awesome.

Exactly. I hope you got away from him and found happiness. My friend eventually broke up with the douche bag and is now married to a much MUCH better guy who treats her with love and respect. She looks great and seems really happy.

I wish there was a screening of A Piece of Work at Jez HQ. I feel they just don't get her.

Wow, I think maybe you all just have a different sense of humor and I'm pretty disappointed that everyone's panties are in a bunch. Nobody is off the table. She's a comedian and, honestly, if that's all you've got to bitch about after filling the shoes of one of the most dynamic woman comedians of our time then I…

You've been a great inspiration for me, too. I'm soon about to have my first kid, and for whichever reason the idea that's permanently stuck in my head is, "Well, once you have a kid, then that's it. Game over."

We've done 9 countries over three years. Wherever we are living, I can work out 2 hours of travel time alone or 4-6 hours with another person. Really though, it's regional budget travel, and that's part of what makes it doable.

I have three kids and a husband, and... what you said inspired me. I love hearing that you didn't like what you've been fed. I know this sounds crazy, but once I got married and had my first child, I was like "Whelp, I guess that's it!" It never occurred to me that life could be any way other than it is. This sounds…

Liza Minnelli

Yep. Single mom here, and that's the way the story goes. I just saw my divorced brother ditch his son, too, and the family propaganda machine was breathtaking: his ex forced him to (no, he gets visitation just like everyone else); the little boy's a naturally "lost soul" (no, he's been abandoned by his father); he had…

This was in response to "it's shitty and unacceptable to leave your kids behind"...I realize it's not the same as what's discussed in the article, but my point is....no one but the people involved know the true story...and even then they may put a public face on it that doesn't match the reality...I'm sure friends and…

I totally agree. I know that it's wrong that a woman doing it is considered so much more transgressory (is that a word? word check doesn't seem to think so), but *as* a woman, if I'm honest, I probably judge mothers more harshly than fathers for abandoning their kids. Though I judge both of them pretty harshly.

Yeah, I'm not saying I agree with what she did at all. And I probably used the wrong word ('acceptable'). I just think women are treated with a lot more scorn for doing that than men.

When I read Dan Savage's book The Kid, he says the research he did suggests that teen moms rarely have kids with FAS, and that the risks increase with the mother's age and binge drinking. (His son's birth mom didn't know she was pregnant for the first few months.) The risks were probably lower when people had kids…

Everyone did not used to drink and smoke, you know that, right? Maybe they didn't warn against it for pregnancy, but there were LARGE swaths of the population who viewed those things as sinful and decadent and abstained.

This is soooo true. Whenever I see stories about single dads, *especially* when it's a family where the mother just walked away, the comments seem to universally be that the dude's a great dad and the mother is a selfish bitch. Stories about single moms though always seem to have people saying how the woman should…

I see your point, but I think we've also taken the "I can fix this" notion to extremes. Speaking personally, this line of thinking kept me tethered to a cheating, verbally abusive husband for years after I should have thrown in the towel. I'm glad that I'm not a quitter by nature, but sometimes you've got to run. And…

A lot of guys walk away from relationships and have little or no contact with their kids. All they have to do is shrug their shoulders and say their mom is a bitch. Most folks give them a pass. A woman who walks away from her family is seen as unnatural, a monster. Single dad = hero, single mom = she made her own…

Yes, but brain damage can happen a looooooong time before they get the typical facial deformities associated with FAS. Not all babies whose mothers drank will get brain damage, though, and no one really knows why some are unaffected while others are not. The list of brain damages that are associated with alcohol…

I taught a student with FAS. It comes in degrees. My student had moderate learning issues and also had obvious physical characteristics of a person with FAS. I have heard this about Bing Crosby's sons, and did a search for photos. It has been reported that the twins may have had FAS, and looking at their photos I…

yeah it happens. There's always people willing to say how it couldn't have happened or the mother must have been lying blah blah. But it does happen. Pregnancy isn't as obvious for everyone, especially when they deal with chronic pain, being overweight etc.