Ugh! Same! I asked one guy the exact same question. His response was, “I thought you’d be into it.” I said, “yeah, well if I was into it, I would have listed it. Best of luck in your search, maybe look up ladies who have casual sex listed!” His reply to that was, “those are sluts” I shit you not. WTF. We can’t win.

Yeah, my ladyparts are fine. They were fine pretty soon after - though I didn’t have a partner so it really didn’t matter. I didn’t tear as much as this woman, however. I tore some and required stitches but not that bad. I do not doubt her experience, but it seems to be pretty fear-mongering.

Oh, I know. Fellow proud progressive Iowan here. :)

Ezcept for that time where they ruled it a-okay for employers to fire women who were too attractive. That was a horrible blunder.

Ugh... fellow Jezzies! Please, please, puh-leese don’t think that this man represents Iowa! He does not! He’s a disgusting, infected pimple on Trump’s ass. Iowa, while not a completely progressive state, is actually a middle-of-the-road state. I know recently it looks like we’re all bat-shit crazy here what with Rep…

This is exactly what happens within the JW cult. One of my friends was sexually abused from 6-10 years old by the Elder in her church and his family - his wife knew and all their children knew and humilated her as if she brought it upon herself. The exact details are so horrifying... they are the stuff of nightmares…

I really liked it. I think it really does a good job at showing how women, and especially mentally ill women are not believed in our society and how that translates to how some people in power being able to abuse them for years. That was the scary premise. Not the haunting thing. But the idea of what her husband and…

Where I live, in the midwest, a child born outside of marriage - whether prior to the parents marrying or never marrying, its like 89% the father’s name. My own son has my last name as a middle name (which his Dad fought me on like crazy!) and his father’s last name. He and I will never be married, aren’t even…

Decay is absolutely the perfect word for describing the way they are presenting themselves!

S’ok. I may be just a wee bit defensive about my state.

Wow. That was ignorant. Iowa is a majority white state, but we have POC living here. Especially in the more urban areas like Iowa City.

Haha! I lived there for awhile but never ate at that Taco Bell. Now I know why!

Pampers Swaddlers are pretty good. From experience, I’d stay away from baby dri/dry ones though. That kind gave my son a real chemical burn on his tush. It was scary and awful. We switched to Target brand diapers but in the last year they’ve switched the materials they use to make them absorbent and it irritates his…

It is very odd how some commenters are saying since she brought it up, he must not be happy with it. Its like, do they need to say at the exact same time “I’d like to try an open relationship” ala the kid’s game jinx 10 padlock? She makes a mistake in fidelity, owns up to it with her husband and explains that she is…

You were this vitriolic and convinced your way is the only way on the Ashley Madison article. I think you are holding some deep, complex feelings regarding people being faithful. In the Ashley Madison article, it made sense to be angry that people were cheating on their spouses. Here, you have a man tell you that he…

Poaching? As in the act of taking? As in a married man is an object that a single woman may take? I find that line of thought a little disturbing. A married man who is unfaithful bears just as much if not more responsibility in his unfaithfulness than the woman he is cheating with does. It feels like you are placing a…

Thank you. I too, have been in a relationship with a married man. I could tell sometimes that he would be frustrated with his wife, but he genuinely cared for her and never put her down in front of me. It actually made me admire him as a person, because I don’t think I would have liked him near as much if he was…

Yes! Exactly! Step-mom porn has this dynamic down pretty well. The guys are usually all super attractive and the camera actually pays attention to this. In more “traditional” porn, sometimes you barely glimpse the man’s body or face except for his genitals. Not that that’s a bad thing... as like you said... they are…

I actually read about this recently elsewhere, though the link eludes me now. Lesbian is actually viewed increasingly by straight women. Not because they are curious but because lesbian tends (by its nature) to focus more on the lead up to sex, cunnilingus and other foreplay that allows the viewer (straight woman) to…

I used to do this with my Barbies. And those cheap one time use cameras. I was no where near as skilled as these kids though!