Sorry, by "warring parties" what I really meant was Molloy and the "I F&%$ing hate RuPaul" tweet. I'll try not to make assumptions about the volume of your argument in the future. One thing I don't doubt is that you're making your case with good intentions. Thanks for taking the time to chat, you've given me some…

RuPaul's personna is female, and it is acceptable to refer to her as a her.

I don't think of it just in terms of terms being directed at drag queens. I am thinking in terms of how they think of themselves. It seems clear to me that RuPaul assumed the terminology encompassed her and the majority of her contestants. That really puts spectators in a position of having to choose between warring…

You're right, I don't know you well. What little I do know about you is that you appear to be a very brave person. You're good with words. And like you wish no harm to Ru, I wish no harm to you. But I think you have to appreciate the difficult situation here. Your argument rests entirely on making the determination…

I think you put too much weight on terminology. Honestly, I think you are smarter than this. There is absolutely nothing about the word "tranny" that automatically infers "transgender." There is just nothing about that term that has ever specifically implied a person who is actually a woman, as a transgender person…

Quite frankly: I like you, but you are wrong. You do not own this terminology. Any man who dresses in women's clothes—and that is what a drag queen is—faces bigotry. RuPaul can talk about that experience as much as she wants, in whatever terminology she wants. You do not own the terminology. You do not own the humor…

Flip is a slur for Filipinos. I only know this because my ex was Filipino and I met him under the screenname flipboy72.

Weirdly, my agency totally allows you to use the verb "flip." Just not the term "flip chart." (White is also okay as a color description but "white board" is offensive.)

Yes its completely fucking…

Unfortunately there is a tired and real history in the USA of making racial implications out of classroom supplies. I am totally not kidding. I work for an agency that has explicitly banned the words 'white board' 'black board' and 'flip chart' on the grounds that they are 'racially insensitive.' It would not…

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Based on what I hear gay and bi men throw around, still just a "basic bitch."

Don't worry too much about it. This is a gossip site whose primary function is discussing the comings and goings of the Kardashians, with a splash of postmodern social justice for people got a C in Women's Lib 101. Most of these posters are the kind of people who began their internet existence as be anonymous trollers…

Don't worry too much about it. This is a gossip site whose primary function is discussing the comings and goings of the Kardashians, with a splash of postmodern social justice for people got a C in Women's Lib 101. Most of these posters are the kind of people who began their internet existence as be anonymous trollers…

Don't worry too much about it. This is a gossip site whose primary function is discussing the comings and goings of the Kardashians, with a splash of postmodern social justice for people got a C in Women's Lib 101. Most of these posters are the kind of people who began their internet existence as be anonymous trollers…

I share many of your frustrations. You are one of the posters I still come around on here to read, actually. If you don't mind me handing you a compliment, part of the reason I like reading your posts is you are willing to take on a difficult discussion without resorting to pre-branded jargon.

Maybe this is…

More specifically, there are a lot of LGBT people who had this experience upon encountering a feminist. Feminism has a checkered history on this issue. Disavowing LGBT people was a major part of its mainstream strategy for decades. Its part of why some of us older LGBT folks grind our teeth when people demand to know…

I think we also have to remember that bullying can be cross-gender. I had a mix of girl and boy bullies. The boys came into the picture later (12th grade or so, once I had come out as gay). The girls were in on it much earlier but more or less laid off by high school. Maybe they felt they couldn't compete with this…

Thank you for writing an informed post about photography. These recent posts about it around here have been driving me crazy. For example, the other day with the Target catalog and the girl with the absurdly long arms (probably due to a clipping error when her image was cut out from the background so she could be…

Although this is a bad way to showcase the cause of "domestic violence" I am uncomfortable completely writing off the horror genre and its tropes. In any case I definitely don't get any "domestic violence" vibe from a killer wearing a medical gown chasing an impossibly well dressed goth chic. I am also not entirely…

That's not the funniest part. This is the same person who spent HOURS the other day defending the honor of Kim Kardashian. http://powderroom.jezebel.com/in-defense-of-…

Did you hear about NinjaCate's brief stint as an advice columist? They had to fire her because the only response she could offer was "No comment until you tell me the race and gender of everyone involved."