Interesting thought. I also think that, in fairness to straight people, part of this also comes down to us dressing and acting in certain ways to intentionally stand out and 1) find each other, as well as 2) signify our status to straight people without having "the conversation." There's definitely a set of…

I think that's the real color of her breasts/areas of her body that don't see a lot of sun and she is wearing a reddish base on her face. I am not a fan of Katy Perry but to her credit she seems to avoid the typical "tanned glow" look, which is a good thing because tanning is super unhealthy.

I wonder if there is some middle ground between hating the performance but loving the dress. It's more East Asian "inspired" than "authentic" but the colors are gorgeous and the flow of the fabric wonderful.

The mix-match of cultures is IMO a bit trickier, and probably always will be as long as the Epcot World Showcase…

I confess, I IRL LOLed at this (as opposed to just LOLed). :)

I think it's very possible the server really was racist. I also think it's possible that if she is throwing around terminology the way she does here, the server was a gay ally and decided not to serve her. We only have her own account to go by. Well and her post history, which... yeah. I can just say that if a…

I can respect not knowing. We all are coming from different places. At least one other person on the queer spectrum posting here seems to disagree with me about the level of offense "ass fuck" and "cocksucker" entails (though I suspect also that that person is much younger than me), so there is that. I'm personally…

Yes, well a straight person completely failing to understand why something is offensive does kind of fall exactly into the theme of this thread, does it not? :)

Haha. Okay, girl. Like, I tried not being gay once but that didn't exactly work out. I guess I could try to view it from the Straight People perspective since this is an important Straight Person topic and not talking about it like a Straight Person is derailing.

I didn't say anything about the comment because I didn't read it. :P

Anyway, are you hot? I am recently single.

Thanks for that. It means a lot to me that you took the time to explain.

I can also see more clearly now that from your perspective it might have seemed like I was dismissing the hurt of racial tension by implying I have it "worse" or somehow "understand." That was a mistake on my part and I apologize for putting you…

You make several good points. I know you and I were at each other's throats a moment ago but I do think this is a well reasoned post. At the same time, I wish you weren't so quick to dismiss my concerns about words like "cocksucker." Like you, sometimes I need a safe space of our own.You mean well, but I really don't…

I don't know what you think that would have to do with anything. Shouting about "cocksuckers" and "ass fucking" isn't suddenly okay just because someone else later in the thread is also an asshole.

I'm afraid I can't keep reading your replies. The million kilowat spotlight of straight privilege is shining too brightly upon you. You have a decent point about racism and a right to be angry about that, but you don't get to decide what is offensive to LGBT people.

If you don't want to talk about gays, don't use homophobic terminology. Or am I mistaken that the entire point of your thread was that we should be able to say whatever we want to people who treat us like shit?

Surprise surprise. The straight girl wants to talk about how she should be able to throw around whatever terminology she wants, minimize the damage straight people do to gays, talk only about her only experiences, and then mentions how its actually the gay people who are so terrible. Wait don't tell me—some of your…

I don't give a flying fuck if she was the straightest sorority girl who ever walked out of the University of Alabama. You do not throw around the word "cocksucker." To you, and only you: check. your. fucking. privilege.

Can you give up on the homophobes at least? Because however she feels about race, she does not have license to fling the word "cocksucker" and people "fucked you in the ass" around. What a raging hypocrite.

No point arguing with this chick. I mean, in order to show how progressive she is about race, she used a homophobic slur. She is the worst. The fact that Jezebel consistently promotes her comments is scandalous.

No point arguing with this chick. I mean, in order to show how progressive she is about race, she used a homophobic slur. She is the worst. The fact that Jezebel consistently promotes her comments is scandalous.

If the server was me, he was gay, and he thinks Evie Havok is fucking asshole homophobe for throwing around the word "cocksucker."