No shit. When I was a 7, I cut off all the hair from a couple of my sister's stuffed animals. My parents still use this as an example, of what a brat I was as a child. I can't imagine what they would have said if I had been caught doing something like this as a TEENAGER.

You could be right, and I know what that guy did to you was horrible, but it was more psychological torment and easier to re-orient in one's mind (for the perpetrator). I feel like this is quite different. Think about it—he had to get scissors, get allies to join him and then hold the student down while he cut his…

"Other families, however, rely on a mom's paycheck for survival."

I'm very interested that you began with the phrase that your parent's "did this to me."

Thanks for making this point. I just want to add that if you talk with some Moms in those countries, you'll discover that a number of them are not thrilled to have to carry their baby around all the time and consider it a giant pain in the ass.

But this is part of my point. They can be completely legally guilty of nothing and therefore will not have to have any discussion of the incident except through a legal lens. However there's still the moral/ethical issue of contributing to a poisonous atmosphere by not intervening when their friends/guests behave…

It's funny how so much of the attention is on how students of color got in because of special consideration, but none of the legacy students who get special consideration or the white males who get in to "cure" the imbalance of universities with nursing schools.

You know what? I'm glad Cornell is dealing with it so quickly, but I'm OLD and am really sick of the solution being providing spaces for the victims and allies to talk about it. How about getting some of those frat brothers in a room to talk about taking some responsibility for creating community—in part by not…

"but at a certain point people need to accept responsibility for their own actions and make an effort to make a different in their lives and those of others."

No lie, I guess it wasn't enough to blame the demise of society on teachers and other public workers sucking on the public teat with their "benefits" and "salaries."

There's a really interesting blogpost on CFC about weight, dating and dieting that speaks to some of this from a black woman's perspective. The post itself is thoughtful and brutally honest, but the comments are kind of mindblowing, particularly when commenters both there and another blog get into how some of them…

Like others have said, I don't think you are getting the point. The MD saying in your office that your weight carries health risks is not mean. It's health advice. The MD literally laughing in your face and going "sure" when you say you walk 2 miles a day (which literally happened to me) is mean and unproductive.

Don't get me started. I went to a salon that was encouraging people to come in for a discount on hair cuts. He washed my hair, muttering about how "tangled" it was and then took out this teeny, tiny hair. I walked out with my hair still soapy after he said it was the only comb he had.

They didn't say "Famed artist" and Gawker media is not an art history blog.

"black American women certainly aren't born knowing how to take care of their daughters' hair; historically, we've been damaging our daughters' hair in the name of style more than anything."

Thank you for making the only informed, respectful comment so far.

ETA. Goddam crazy commenting system.

You leave your dessert politics out of this!

Well, I'm just glad that cake and the opportunity to demonize a minority got that woman in red out of the sun for a little bit.

Damn. And here I was hoping that the gay caterer had poisoned the cake so that they all woke up sick this morning.