Honestly this is probably not a popular opinion around these parts, but hey...the sexual revolution cut both ways. We got increased freedom of choice not to marry, to remain childfree if we wish, to have multiple partners if we wish etc...and so did men. Of course, given the choice and absent societal pressure to marry…

I feel SO lucky that I came out and dated in a community that didn’t have (any that I experienced?) of people not wanting to date bi folks, at a small college I think it was much more like “OMG that cute girl might like girls, that increases my dating pool by 10%.” Also though, being statistically or anecdotally…

This is why we need to focus on it as a spectrum rather than a label. I label myself as gay. I am married and have a husband. I’d say i’m 85% gay, 15% straight. Is that enough to earn the “bi” label, probably not, but at what point do you change your label from “bi” to “gay”. I think it’s rare for anyone to be 100%…

The devaluation of bi identity comes from gay people refusing to accept the existence of bi people, not from people who once identified as bi shifting later. the point *is* that sexuality is a spectrum *and is fluid*. I first came out as bi, then pansexual, then later non-binary. I identify as gay as I present femme…

It’s a little unfair to assume that lesbians use bi as an intentional stepping stone (thus devaluing it), and not that it’s a smaller step they are forced to make to shift away from heterosexuality. Excluding men as sexual partners is scary, socially ostracizing and dangerous - you can’t expect everyone to dive right…

Yours is a popular belief. I’d encourage you to unpack it. The devaluation is not a necessary consequence of her action, other people have to actively choose to use her previous uncertainty as evidence against the existence of bisexuality. Put the onus of change on those people, not her, because when you really think…

I think it’s just a natural progression. I identified as bi for a few years (and am probably still technically like a Kinsey 5 or something). For a lot of people, coming out means hacking through years of socialization to be attracted to the opposite gender, having people talk about a straight marriage in your future,…

Well, a lot of people start out assuming they are heterosexual before moving on to other designations. That doesn’t devalue actual heterosexuals.
I think “actually bi” folks are asking for the same respect.

I’ve been thinking a lot about “biphobia” both in straight and queer communities. As someone who identifies as fluid? on the spectrum? 75% lesbian? I originally came out as bi, but have no interest in spending my life partnered with a guy, and am having a “big lesbian wedding” with my female partner this summer.

Even us straight people spend a lot of their teenage years sorting their shit out. Ones with half a brain are going to recognize this as a similar sort of thing and not sweat it.

To say that it’s use as a stepping stone devalues the identity isn’t the right way to think about it, it should be that people who see it as a stepping stone devalue it. The devaluation isn’t the fault of those who use bi as a stepping stone. It’s the fault of those who say ‘she thought she was bi and now shes gay so…

Maybe not inherently, but in the context of rampant biphobia/denial of bisexuality as a real thing (even among strictly gay/lesbian individuals), yeah the framing does feel a little uncomfortable.

I don’t think so. Compulsory heterosexuality is something a lot of lesbian/gay identified women struggle with, and as someone who is definitely-not-a-stepping-stone bisexual, I don’t see that as devaluing bi/pansexuality.

THRreports that the second season is not set in a high school, but in the 1700s and is supposed to revolve around Marie Antoinette, with many cast members returning to play new roles à la American Horror Story.

the second season is not set in a high school, but in the 1700s and is supposed to revolve around Marie Antoinette

Can he narrate his downfall?

So what’s the difference between a developer ‘getting political’, and a developer who has only now been able to make games featuring non-sexualized women and minorities? Even today, you STILL get publishers telling developers, ‘no, you can’t make this game featuring a woman, because guys won’t buy it.” Horizon…

Like Supernatural. It was planned to end with the fifth season — and it would have made much more sense.

There is no way on God’s green goodness that woman is a feminist. You can’t vote for a man who virulently hates women and be a feminist. Nope. End of story. She wants the benefits of feminism for herself and the rest of us can go screw. See: the Stormy Daniels comments she made. She’s hideous.

Yeah, getting annoying people keep calling all transphobia TERFs. TERF is very specific to feminists who tie womanhood to sex, and exclude trans women from the movement because they “aren’t real women” because they don’t have a vagina.