But he ISN'T affirming her choices. She's affirming his.

THIS. I mean I don't necessarily think there's anything wrong with it, but... do we really need one more platform for dudes to insist that they're just trying to be polite when opening doors for women? Hasn't that straw man been knocked down enough?

The woman saying "I mend your clothes because I'm better at it," and the man saying "I hold the door to be polite," by themselves didn't strike me poorly. It was when the man's "I don't mean anything when I do X" and the woman responding by saying "I know you don't mean anything when doing X" that just seemed…

I do too! I just watched the "kids react to the Cheerios commercial" (with the mixed-race parents) video and I was so happy at the end. Kids are so compassionate.

Yeah, there's that as well. Saying "it's OK I do the housework because I'm just better at it" without questioning why the man was never taught to sew, or whatever, isn't exactly groundbreaking stuff.

It's because the messages of the men and women don't match up. The women are telling men "just because I'm a feminist doesn't mean I don't appreciate certain gestures." If the male equivalent was saying "just because I'm a man doesn't mean I don't know how to fold laundry" or something like that, then I'd feel like it…

One of the first things I told my husband when we moved in together is that I do not iron. Do not do not do not.

This! Exactly! It's so one-sided. If it was just the women saying "I like to cook and clean and yes I'm still a feminist" then I'd be OK with it, but the men telling the women that there's no reason to be suspicious of their actions, and the women just echoing it, weirds me out.

I think I made that exact face.

I have definitely posted selfies with the caption "MY HAIR LOOKS AWESOME TODAY" before, or if I did my makeup and got it just right. I don't take selfies very often, in general, but if I do and it's simply because I think I look great and am disappointed that no one except 2-3 people at the office will see it, I have…

Exactly. Regarding the comments about JLaw et al not being of average attractiveness, it's still Hollywood so obviously the actresses are going to be gorgeous anyway. But Shailene and Jennifer both are kind of dressed down in the movies - minimal makeup, hair plain or pulled back, etc. So by Hollywood standards, they…

I agree with this. The more I read about these sorts of stories, the more that I feel like we often do a disservice by talking about rape only in terms of an act that evil rapists commit - because that means that if the act was rape, then the guy who did it must be evil, and this guy isn't evil, so obviously it…

I was just discussing this with someone - I think the big difference between Divergent and The Hunger Games is the level of attention paid to the dystopia. In THG, Katniss spends a lot of time ruminating on the unfairness of the world they're in and the differences between the districts and the Capitol. In Divergent,…

Man, when the trailer came out, I watched that scene (with the shirt off and the tattoos) over and over and over again. Not even ashamed.

Yeah, I think in the books, a few times she says that a lot of girls wouldn't consider him hot (I'm re-reading the second one and explicitly remember her saying his ears stick out funny and his nose is kind of hooked).

They didn't look like that in the movies - JLaw spent a lot of THG with "no" makeup (obviously some, but to make it look like she didn't have any) and her hair tangled and unbrushed. In Divergent, Shailene gets the same treatment, it seems.

I remember thinking that in the original Hunger Games, JLaw seemed pretty average-looking (save for the scenes where she was all dolled up by her stylists).

This is pretty much me. Add to that, hair and makeup as well (my hair is curly so at the least, I have to wet it and spend some time separating/twisting it if I want to wear it down). Monday I look great - hair done, makeup, I wear lipstick and everything. Tuesday/Wednesday, I start slacking - usually it starts with…

But isn't that pretty much exactly the issue? She isn't suing because she had to make other arrangements to pump for three days. She's suing because when she complained about it, her boss bullied her into resigning.

I really, really don't see someone mistaking a container of breastmilk for actual milk. For one thing, it's possible that the mother's room had its own fridge (mine does, and based on friends' experience, most do - if the company already has a nice separate room for breastfeeding mothers, it doesn't take much more to…