southern-racism has always been "You can be my neighbor, but not my friend" (In direct contrast to northern-racism which is "I definitely will not live the fuck around you, but if you want to meet for drinks, that's cool.")

Pretty, skinny white girls wear frumpy shit all the time and are considered fashionable. But if a plus-sized woman (especially a WOC) tried that shit, they'd be mocked to hell for being slovenly.

I had the same thought - this was more an "Oh, God" moment than outright racist. But still, it deserves to be mocked.

So what was the drink?

It feels like the implication is "If I could, I would. You can, so you should".

My son is two now, and my husband is still the designated person to get up with him when he wakes up in the morning. I was the one to carry the fetus, I was the one who had him cut out of me (C-section), I was the one who breastfed. He owes me an extra hour of sleep in the morning.

That's fair - sorry, I saw a couple other comments that did say "well if she was so uncomfortable, she could just have expressed manually" and misinterpreted your comment the same way. My bad.

This happened to me - went to the ASPCA to adopt a dog partly so I would have a running buddy (I do marathons FFS!) and they denied me because I lived in an apartment.

Re: the collar thing - My lab has dry skin and tends to scratch a lot. We end up taking her collar off most of the time when she's indoors because otherwise she scratches, the tags jingle, it's loud and obnoxious. When we're going out, she gets her collar back, but it would be possible for her to slip out without it.

I agree with you completely in that regard. I'm just saying that even if she was able to hand express, that doesn't excuse the jail's lack of accommodations.

I'm just saying I understand why they would want the added precaution (I guess, I can't think of a better word right now) of being told that it is a necessity, because regardless of how much or how little of an inconvenience it is...it is an inconvenience.

I don't know exactly how good a typical jail's sterilization techniques are.

Missing the point. Even if she did hand-express, her baby is still being denied optimal nutrition because the jail can't be bothered to let her store a couple small bottles of milk in a fridge for a day or so.

I imagine they don't get a whole lot of breastfeeding mothers and it probably is a hassle to accommodate one - particularly, as mentioned, storing the milk

LOL "they're not a medical facility." They don't need any special equipment, a refrigerator - or, hell, a cooler - would have sufficed.

Also, let me just pre-emptively address those of you who have the following comment ready to submit:

Hand expressing doesn't completely empty the breast and takes for fucking ever. At the least, her supply would have tanked.

Sheriff's Capt. Larry Malcomson said the jail has limited refrigeration capacity and lacks other the necessary facilities to allow all incarcerated nursing mothers to express milk.

I got the worst of both sides - my mom, who kept encouraging me to quit whenever breastfeeding got even slightly difficult, and who attributed every single grumpy mood of my son's to hunger, on one side, and the "boob nazis" on the other side. I spent a lot of my time online looking for breastfeeding support, but the…

I wish mixed feeding would get more traction. It's annoying to see the decision framed as breast vs formula, because it puts so much all-or-nothing pressure on the mom. I think of it this way: Breastfeeding a baby is like serving them all organic, whole foods. Formula is like giving them dinosaur-shaped chicken…