I like this comment a lot. No disrepect to the childfree, but I really bristle when people without kids talk about how to parent based on "when I was (age) it happened like this."

LOVE rock climbing! Just don't know if I can fit it into my schedule (I have a toddler and a husband who works long hours, so after work I basically have to go straight to the daycare to pick him up, then feed him dinner, bathe him, etc)

Jesus, this.

Thanks for the suggestion! I want to get into doing more weight training, but I keep putting it off because I want to have a trainer by my side at least when I get started (so waiting until we can afford a few sessions) to make sure my form is OK and I'm not going to hurt myself. I've looked into crossfit but…

Saying that something isn't inherently feminist doesn't mean it's automatically anti feminist. That's not how the world works.

Well again, that certainly doesn't make you a "bad feminist" or anything. I think as a whole that most feminists would tell you to cut yourself some slack. I'm a big believer in cutting back the intensity when you aren't feeling up for it, because some exercise is better than none. There's also been some days where…

Anecdote time:

I just discussed this further below! I think it's pointless getting into "good feminist/bad feminist" discussions, and it's not like anyone's going to take your feminist card away for wanting to look good.

I'm not sure where you're coming from, but I'll bite...

There's a quote that summarizes my outlook on it, which is attirbuted to Alanis Morisette but I can't confirm if that's true:

Really? I'm a feminist and a marathoner and I feel like the two are quite compatible.

It's too much fun being cynical, I guess.

You clearly missed that I was being sarcastic.

I guess I'm just saying err on the side of expressing that love for your kids, and leave it to the discretion of the living to see if it is hurting or helping. They can make adjustments in the distribution if they think it's needed.

I mean it's an interesting discussion, about whether a person would or wouldn't appreciate it, or whether reminders would be more sweet than bitter or vice versa.

"Bullying," seriously? Do you think these notes are going to spontaneously appear before the daughter every day at lunch? Presumably, Mom will pack them. And presumably if they're too distressing, she'll stop.

People in the comments: You do realize that Dad won't be the one packing his daughter's lunches if he passes away, right? Presumably, if it upsets the daughter, Mom will stop packing them, or give them to her for dinner.

Just showing some support here for your point. I think there's a big difference between discussing intersectionality in different populations (gay men being misogynistic towards women, straight women fetishizing gay men) and men chiming in to talk about, say, false rape accusations on an article about rape. If we're…

But it seems to me that saying "you are meeting the wrong straight women to be friends with" is just as facile as saying to a woman that she's making friends with the wrong gay men.

When I was looking for a place to go for my bachelorette party, a lot of my girlfriends kept suggesting going to a gay bar. I vetoed it, for the reasons you mentioned, but wondered what the general consensus was among gay men - so thanks!